How long did others wait to have the next kid (or second one)? Missing feeling my baby in my belly

I’m also conflicted! Because I also want my babies to grow up together and always have a friend, but on the other hand I had a traumatic birth and hated pregnancy so much that I’m not ready for that aspect of it 🙁

I’m planning a year to let my body totally heal and so I can breastfeed at least that long with this one. I don’t want to wait too long in case it takes a long time again to get pregnant and I want them close in age. I totally understand missing being pregnant. I miss feeling his kicks 😭

I don’t think I’ll have a second bc of traumatic birth like Tailyn.. but I do have to say I miss the kicks in my belly!! I also somewhat hated being pregnant, mostly just the 3rd trimester though.. 😂 @MylinWhat did your doctor say? I just had my 2 week pp appt and they’re pushing birth control to space out if there was to be #2.

Aw @Erin and @Tailyn im so sorry your birth experiences were so traumatic!! 🥺 @Erin they probably havent pushed going back on birth control because i didnt know or even mention wanting a second child anytime soon. For the most part weve been pretty cautious when we weren’t trying and prepared when we were trying

It was definitely rough 🙁 but maybe for my next it’ll be different! I hope

@Erin my pregnancy was only rough because of my mental state I was in! I was so depressed all of the time.. postpartum has honestly been the opposite which I’m thankful for.

My husband wants to try 6-8 months from now. Combination of wanting them close to age and I don't want to be pregnant after 36 years old. But we shall see if that happens because he's due for another deployment next year and idk about being pregnant with a toddler and 9 year old my myself.

@Tailyn yes! PP is easier bc I have my body back and the cutest sweetest baby to stare at all day.. my anxiety has heightened a bit, but nothing that isn’t manageable.

I just had my baby! And my kids are 2 years apart. I’m in the trenches now but it’ll be worth it. Whether they are close in age or a couple year apart I think both have they’re pros and cons

Ive just had baby and have an almost 3 year old and 10 year old. The bigger gap between my first 2 was a lot easier , but I’m hoping my 2 youngest will be able to play together and go through similar life stages together ☺️ but a newborn & a toddler is tough!

We plan on trying next year September. I planned it so baby can be born in my birth month. And they’ll only be a year apart

Just had our second, started trying 3 months pp, there is 19 months between our two girls. It is hard work but I love the close age gap.

@Tailyn same! I had a traumatic birth the pregnancy wasn’t all too bad. But also, learning the newborn stage and navigating it is hard but not sure I wanna do it again. 😂😭

Hi! I had my second last month when my son is 2 years old. I’d say it has been pretty helpful to know he can do things on his own without mama’s help and I can focus a little more on my infant. At his age, I knew I was ready — mentally and physically. I definitely missed the feeling of having a baby inside me and being pregnant again. So, I’d say whenever your first kid can stand up on their own (mostly) and can entertain themselves with their toys or help you out on chores, cleaning up their toys, etc. It will help so much in the long run and it isn’t to where it’s too stressful. My toddler still has a long ways to go in terms of growing but with the age gap, it would help establish friendship between them. He even enjoys having my infant around.

We’re going to try for another one ASAP because I’m old. It’s literally now or never for me.

Its that feeling that made me have the second one but now that im not sleeping eating from past few days made me no more kids two are enough 😅

@Sadhia Same! I barely get enough sleep as it is with my second 😮‍💨. It doesn’t help that I’m so tired and my toddler is super active with a very fussy baby