Bd said if he doesn’t sign the birth certificate he doesn’t have to pay child support…
Show your support
They will require a DNA test and still try to get child support from him. My partner was on the BC already and they made us go to court but I know other people who didn't have the dad in their and the made them do DNA test and the dad still had to pay. So regardless he's gonna end up having to pay for his kid if he signs or not. He's not going to be able to avoid it unless during your phone interview you explain that you and dad have an agreement or whatever in terms of the child. When I applied for food stamps this year they called from the child support part of it and I explained to them that my partner and I are together, just not married and that he provides for my kids in whatever way he can so we didn't have to go to court.
If you aren’t married, you can’t run away from child support whether you’re on the birth certificate or not. The court can request a DNA test and enforce it. The state isn’t going to pay for some things if there’s a father present.
You might be fine, I told them it’s just me and the baby, the dad isn’t in our lives (he is) im on leave as well; and I am now have SNAP. No child support case pending nor did they mention they’ll put him on it. I think it’s just depends on the case worker. Best of luck to you 🫶🏼
@Jen thanks !! Good to know
I rather just not deal with him at all
Don't mention him. Might be the best scenario. Say he's not involved or you don't have his info etc. When I said dad was involved they asked me for his social security number and his address and shit. But because I had stated he's an active participant we avoided the need for a court date (this time around) so maybe if they think he's just dipped out completely they won't bother with him
Ultimately you decide what’s best for you and your baby, mama. If you want to put him on it, you can. If not, don’t. Call him on his bluff, don’t let him sign the certificate. If you truly don’t want to deal with him. Gather proof that he doesn’t have the babies best interest, take it to courts if you have to. If you do let him sign it and don’t want to deal with him then the signing of the certificate will be a hassle in the long run. You’ll need his signature/permission for anything and everything. Maybe don’t even let him come to the hospital if you don’t want to. It’s not required for him to be there! If you say you want him gone, security will escort him out! What YOU say goes, don’t forget. And please don’t let him let you have a bad pregnancy 🥺🫶🏼
If you don’t want his support, keep him off of it. You will have 100% of the say over your baby this way. Clearly he doesn’t care that much if this is the type of conversations he’s bringing to you 🤦🏾♀️ If you ever change your mind, just file a petition for child support and the court will handle the rest
@Jen yeah he acts like he will be doing me a favor if he signs it . He’s supposedly getting himself financially together since I wouldn’t help him with bail money. He told me to let him know when I’m in labor/ going home so he can help but has barely helped throughout the pregnancy just been asking to borrow money 😞.
Oh my! I am so sorry! Please do what’s best for you. Happy mama, happy baby! You can call SNAP and apply for emergency assistance, they’ll usually give it especially if you’re pregnant or have a baby already. If you don’t want him there or to sign it then don’t tell him, you don’t need him and his half ass help! Trust me when I say you’re not alone mama! We all are here for you. You can have another support person with you in the room, doesn’t have to be the sperm donor. The security helped me in the cab the night I was discharged! Trust me, there’s a village of people!
@Jen thanks yeah I will apply for it when I’m no longer working since right now I wouldn’t qualify for it. Thanks again for ur kind words !
Not true. You can sue for child support and they will require him to take a paternity test in that case