Confused young mom.
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he clearly never wanted to be involved so don't make him be. it wasn't just his decision to not use protection, you could have said no but you allowed him to continue. you could have also brought plan b yourself, stop relying on men to do everything for you.
Personally i wouldn’t let him come around the child in the future unless he does a complete 360 n invests into you n the baby. he has stated from the jump he doesn’t want to be involved or help so I would make him stand on that. Make sure you don’t put him on the birth certificate. You can’t force anyone to be a parent! unfortunately so if you decide to keep the baby just keep that in mind
IF UR STATE DOESNT PROVIDE CUSTODY ON BEHALF OF HIM WHEN YOU ARE NOT MARRIED THEN DONT GIVE HIM ANY RIGHTS!!!!! HE DOESNT DESERVE IT!!!!! Babies change ppl sometimes the bd wises up but like, if you don’t have to deal with him then don’t. get on WIC and live your life without him. you are strong and can do this without him i promise you. if you want child support $ then go to your county court (it’s usually “_____ county clerk of superior court” - it’s where they file all the paperwork) go there ask for a legal paternity test to prove he is the father then get him on child support. if you do that also ask if doing the court ordered pat test will give him any level of rights idk what it’s like in your state. But yeah girl if he doesn’t want to be around then don’t let him. Fuck him.
He probably won’t come around. My child’s father didn’t want the baby and the baby is 3 months now and not even a visit. He doesn’t really ask about her either or cares. I mean he still buys her diapers if I ask but it’s not like he wants to step up and be a father. A lot of women on this app try to coparent but it’s useless cuz the dad doesn’t wanna actually parent or be involved. At most you’ll probably just get some child support. And it’s better to just be a single parent honestly. It does give you some resentment but youre gonna be more hurt and angry 24/7 if you’re near a selfish man during vulnerable times or postpartum. Like you don’t wanna deal with more stress or arguments when the baby is here. You don’t have to compromise with him if he wants to see the baby. Even if he takes you to court, the judge usually favors the mom. After all you will be the one taking care of the baby not him.
@ky Facts! If he’s already a piece of shit pre pregnancy or during pregnancy it gets worse after the baby. They don’t change for the better and even if they do it won’t be right away. For your peace of mind, you gotta let him go. Postpartum I was so angry and depressed and during pregnancy too because I still was in contact with my child’s father. I felt like I was the only one trying to compromise and forgive but really some things are just unforgivable. You need distance and time away from him. You will heal eventually.
My husband originally wanted me to get an abortion to money issues at the time and as the pregnancy went on he became more attached and now he can't picture his life without his daughter. It his feeling can change so if he wants to be present after the birth or later in pregnancy let him.
Do you have any family/friends that could support you ? Also are you ok good teens with his mum? Sadly these things happen so we would just have to prepare for him to be an idiot and not want to be apart of the child’s life. Don’t force or beg him either. Deal with it legally (child support) feel free to message me x