Guilt

Is it your first baby? My first baby is due in March too and we got invited to a wedding in June and my SIL was telling me I probably won’t want to go/leave the baby that early. I think the best thing you can do is see how you feel nearer the time and if you don’t want to go, sell the tickets/see if your partner wants to go with a friend. Men don’t realise/feel the same way (like my husband keeps saying we can leave the baby with his mum for a week to go on holiday, which obviously I won’t be doing until they are older!) I think you have to listen to your gut nearer the time, there’s no right or wrong, only what is right for you and your baby ❤️

Mum guilt is the worst, my LB is 11 months old and I feel so guilt if I ever have to leave him, but you know what... He is always absolutely fine 😊 have some time to yourself Mumma, it is OK! It does not make you a bad mum, it does not mean your little one will suffer, they will be absolutely fine for one evening if Mumma goes and has an evening away Go and enjoy yourself 🥰

You definitely shouldn’t feel guilty! The only things to think about is if baby is breastfed and if the grandparents are a regular part of his/her life. I only say this because my first son doesn’t see his grandparents often so would be upset being left with them even for 30 mins haha. But at least a baby only a few months old is less aware what’s going on, they’ll possibly just miss your smell

I left my baby for a concert that was rescheduled from before my due date to 1 month postpartum and I coped really well and so did baby! Only issue was pumping and dumping which felt wasteful and my breasts were so engorged after the show (it had been 5-6 hours without being able to pump). It’s so natural to feel guilty! But at the end of the day if you get close to May/June and you really don’t want to go then don’t. Just follow your instincts!

I was due 17th Jan, and we had theatre tickets booked for 20th Jan. Thankfully, this could be rescheduled to the 24th Feb and I gave birth 15th Jan. I went to the theatre and my husband's aunt looked after our 6 week old baby girl. We had a great time being able to have a break for a few hour, and my little girl was absolutely fine with her great aunt doting on her. It was probably a bit easier that we were formula feeding, so we didn't need to worry about her taking to the bottle, pumping or anything like that. Go with your instincts, but they will be fine for a few hours with someone you trust x

I think you just need to wait until baby’s here and see how you feel, honestly. It’s ok if you decide to go, and ok if you decide not to. Are the grandparents fully prepared to care for a newborn overnight? There are just so many possibilities when it comes to postpartum and life with a newborn that I would just wait to decide.

See how you feel closer to the time. Maybe there's a friend who might go with your husband instead of you if necessary? Knowing you have the option could take pressure off. Don't promise the babysitting to grandparents now because they could be disappointed later if you back out for your own mental health reasons. I found that I couldn't predict how I was going to feel about this when I was still pregnant. I had so much separation anxiety. My family told me I "was going to want a night off" and I believed them when I was still pregant/early pp but I it turns out I was different to them. I never wanted a "night off". I wanted this baby for 10 years I was going to enjoy him. They're small such a short time

Like everyone else, I say see how you feel at the time. I had to be in a wedding 2 months after birth and was gone from my baby the whole day which was tough. Then I had a concert planned 4 months after birth and really struggled with it. I ended up going, but was a little distracted and definitely ready to get back home asap. However, I also struggle with pp anxiety which definitely contributes, so it’s all dependent on each person. If you think you can go and will be able enjoy yourself I say go for it!