If your partner didn’t like your couple therapist would you switch even if you liked them?

My husband found us one and we both have issues. I don’t mind him but he’s constantly saying I’m purposely having panic attacks in order to control my husband, who also will literally lie and try and cheat on me but the therapist will just hear him say “ok I’ll stop that” and be like good job even tho he continues to try and message women. Idk I feel like this therapist doesn’t get a women’s prospective at all (esp postpartum) and he’s barely talked to me but then tells my husband like he’s certain about me? Is it just me overreacting or what? Mind you my husband started getting physical with me first when I got pregnant and that’s when I started getting more agressive but he’s refused to tell the therapist the part where he was the one to first start hitting me and I kept forgiving thennn got mad and angry. And when I tried to tell therapist he said I should talk about it with my own but then tells my husband stuff about me when he doesn’t talk to me but once..?

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Find a new therapist, immediately. I don’t think you’ll get the help you need with this one especially if he’s agreeing with your husband (blindly) and your husband has been lying about shit. He needs accountability and this therapist isn’t gonna give him that.

Are you sure this therapist isn't a friend of your husband? I would get a woman therapist one that isn't bias.

Definitely find a new therapist. They should give talking time and respect to both you and your husband.

@Kimmy 🇯🇲 how would a woman therapist make it less bias?

@Karma do you have friends who you tell the truth and not take side when they are wrong especially in their relationship? That's how. Not every women support women especially knowing they are the cause of a problem. I don't.

@Kimmy 🇯🇲 usually women tend to side with women, especially strangers who don't know the full picture and personality of each party because this society automatically portrays women as the victims. I'm sure a male therapist could be unbiased too, and would probably even side with the woman more times than not

You need to find a therapist that you both agree on otherwise it's somewhat pointless.

Don’t get a new therapist… get a new man.

@Angela okay, but actually, this! Forget what I said, I agree with Angela!

@Karma usually like you said but not always and like I said a woman that's not bias. I'm not going to go back and forth with you anymore.

I was going to say give him a try but then I read the whole story 😂 definitely find a new one or possibly have a couple of sessions with this one alone and then see if that helps but I think a new one will probably be better xx

And also just thought to add this in but “ok I’ll stop” - an obsessive behaviour?!? How? A therapist makes a plan and helps you stop not just says ok great u said ur gonna stop. If im a drug addict or an alcoholic does the therapist or doctor just say great u said you’ll stop good job gold star? 😂

Your partner sounds disrespectful and so does your therapist. Your therapist doesn't sound professional. Saying you are having panic attacks to control your husband? That is a horrible and hurtful thing to say not helpful x

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