Infertility
Hi, I’m having a rough month. My husband and I just found out that the only way that we will be able to have a 2nd baby is possibly by in vitro. I’m fine with trying it but I also feel pretty discouraged as even though my husband says that he understands my concerns, I don’t think he really fully does. I get really nauseous from even mild hormone drugs and I’m concerned that it will affect my job and taking care of our toddler. Especially as from what I understand you take quite a few with in vitro. He said he’ll try and come home earlier to help, but also just brushes it aside a bit saying that it might be necessary to endure to succeed. Does anyone have any advice on how to make him understand?
Right now I basically run the household and do 95% of hanging out with our daughter due to his work schedule and liking to go on hunting trips.
It's probably worth working on your marriage (and your workload balance between the two of you) before having another kid. Another kid is not going to make things easier. And I imagine going through IVF will also be quite a grueling/stressful process that can stress a marriage even further. If you do decide to go ahead with it, maybe you could ask about mini-IVF? I've heard that can be a lower-med/less intense option for some people. Whether its appropriate for you probably depends on why you need IVF though.