Partner resents me for having baby
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sorry, why do you want to make it work with someone that “resents” you for having YOUR CHILD? are you actually comprehending the fact that this person is unhappy because you conceived his child. nothing at all makes this valid or understandable, also has anyone held a gun to his head and demanded you pay his debt? i highly doubt that. so if it’s too overwhelming for him, you can contact debt collection agencies to get help with setting up payment plans for your debt. there are financial services that can advise you of the best steps going forward to clear the debt. he should feel honoured he has a partner and child to provide for, and has the ability to do that, many men in this world would die for that opportunity. he sounds ridiculous, he wanted you to get pregnant, now it’s happened he doesn’t like it lmao what a prick. i suggest you not only realise your worth but also your sons. the workload of motherhood doesn’t last for long, he’ll be all grown up before you know it x
@Anisha ♡ 😮💨😮💨😮💨 nothing like a dose of tough love lol
you’re stronger and worth more than you’re settling for ❤️xx
I feel like this is very common. It sounds like your son is not his biological child correct? The pressure that you are under in this relationship is coming from all different angles. I am so sorry to hear this. I resented my husband for different things since becoming a mom but what helped me was marriage counseling. My husband did not want to be apart of the counseling so I just did it virtually myself and it really helped.
@Tori it’s his baby. He refuses counseling and insists I go.
I’m confused. You guys are trying to have a second child right now then?
@Tori no he gave me the ultimatum when we were dating
He sounds very immature. I am so sorry that you are stuck in this situation. You’re more than just a person to produce his babies. Do you have any options to leave with your son and say you need a break?
@Tori yes I’m speaking with both his mother and my mom today to gain a little perspective and advice. They’re both very levelheaded and in successful marriages so I feel like they’ll give me good perspective. Also both live nearby.
@Tori I definitely need space from him
I hope that the conversations with them go well. Whatever happens please make sure you ask yourself if you’d be okay with someone treating your son like they are treating you. That perspective has really helped me realize what relationships I need to set boundaries in.
It makes zero sense for him to say about having a baby when you began dating and then hate you for it after. Also I’d like to say he is also a parent to that child. He’s got exactly the amount of responsibility and he needs to take it on board. If he didn’t want a kid yet he should have wrapped up and told you so, not tell and do the opposite. I can’t tell you what to do, and I won’t question why on anything as ultimately it’s your choice, just please be careful. It can be extremely damaging to your mental health and your child’s especially if your child ends up hearing it one day from your partner to them. Have you gotten down to why he resents that as he gave you that ultimatum first? Does he feel it’s the wrong time? Even still, I don’t think there’s exactly a right time. Life happens, things happen, if things happened unplanned or a result of not having safe sex then I’d say he still needs to step up and accept it. Takes two to tango. You shouldn’t have to bare what he’s doing
Your baby daddy wanted to have a baby and put it as a condition to be with you and now he just told you that he resent you for having a child ? I would hate it and that would be a deal breaker in our relationship. He sounds very immature and emotionally unstable. You are not the problem for resenting him
Hey, while I don’t have any advice.. you’re not alone. 💙 I’m currently in a very similar situation. It can be so overwhelming at times. If you need someone to talk to feel free to reach out!