Am I wrong for this?

Hi I need some advice on this matter pls. So when I was around 15 my SIL ( older brothers wife) had her first baby and she was struggling a little so she’d ask me to stay quite often to help her with like night feeds or just house chores which I was more than happy to do so. Since I was over so often I was around her older sister a lot so we all became close. When Covid started she had her second baby and I stayed thru out most of the year to help her once again so whenever they do like tea parties at her sisters house she’d take me with her when I was over. When I started university I got very busy as I was also working the same time but if still go to her house and do the night feeds then just leave to work from her house but they stopped inviting me to things as I wasn’t around as much anymore so we wasn’t as close then. Around that same time her sister got pregnant and at 7 months she unfortunately had a still birth while she was pregnant with her 3rd baby. (She is now pregnant with her rainbow baby girl. ) Around 2 years later I got married and got pregnant 6 months later with my daughter. When I was about 8 months pregnant my SIL came to visit my mum while I was there and as we was chatting I told her then name I was planning on naming my daughter which then she told me that that’s what her sister was planning on naming her baby that passed away. I felt quite bad so I decided to pick a different name for her. 2.5 years later now I’m pregnant again and the only name I seem to like is that one name I picked for my daughter when I was first pregnant, it’s like my heart is set on it. I know we are not close anymore and I have probably only seen her once since I’ve had my daughter but I don’t know if it’ll be wrong for me to name my second baby that name . Please can you guys honestly give me some advice and tell me what to do ?

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Yikes… that’s a tough one

@indiiii it really is. What would you do in my position?

I would stick to the name you chose! I had a still birth too. And to be honest, I wouldn’t be offended if any one used the name. Much less someone you hardly see. Is it an unusual name at all?

At the end of the day, it's the name you like. You had another girl for this reason, you didn't name your first this name and your second girl is your calling to imo 🤷🏻‍♀️

Personally, I wouldn’t use the name. Or at very least, I’d try and talk to the sister who planned on using it first and try to delicately sound them out x

Personally, if it’s my SIL’s sister whom I rarely ever see, that’s not a close enough relationship for me to worry about it. In your shoes I’d name her the name that I love ❤️

@Van it’s not unusual at all tbh, thanks for the advice :)

@Hannah ofc I do plan to talk to her before anything but I didnt want to have the conversation with her before getting some advice first

Chose the name you want regardless of others x

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