Relationship issues! (And me)

So about into 5 months pregnancy, I found out my partner been cheating at least emotionally. Says nothing happened physically but deep down I have this weird feeling it isn't the case. Fast forward to a month on, I then found it hadnt stopped. I honestly just cried, absolutely heartbroken and having my first child, to a man that didn't even want to stick by knowing how hard it was/is. This was 23rd September and I've told everyone we have broken up but him and his family believe it otherwise while two of the members know what's been going on. Yesterday, he mentioned that now he knows we can be pregnant and have kids, may aswell go for another three and I just can't help but feel sick at the bottom of my stomach about it all. Putting somewhat a brave face on and I don't know how to overcome this even if I could start to somewhat trust him again. We live 8 hrs away roughly from any family though it's only his that has the support network whereas I don't. For many reasons I just want to stay in the area I am and will be signing into a tenancy soon for me and little one. Spoken about moving in but again, I don't know and so lost on what to do. The recent thing mainly is just being snappy and having childlike tantrums sometimes himself but now he's done with everything, he's expecting after 2/3 weeks to hold me to a standard that frankly I don't feel like he gets to choose. I'm tired and sick of waking up dreading the anxiety of what may be true because he's tried settling believes before and I was right all along. I have it again now and I always said, cheating is a no go but now the child's involved, it's like it's an anchor to all this mess. Currently 24 weeks now and baby is healthy, I'm doing well besides this. Just so lost on what to do.

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This is awful and I’m sorry you’re going through this, I’m pregnant currently at 27 weeks, I think you need to be strong and cut him off as hard as that is, I believe in second chances but in my eyes he blew that second chance and put your guard up again. I think just had a strong support around you to help you get through it but I wouldn’t be able to trust again especially raising a child x

I know you are thinking of staying in the area, but if you are considering splitting, you’ll miss your family and the support. Why don’t you head back to stay with your family, at least for a while? Motherhood is hard, harder still on your own, but that is no reason to settle for a man who cheats on his pregnant partner. I’m so sorry you are going through this 😔

@Hannah @Tayla sadly the support from my family just isn't there as it's pretty toxic and others are pretty lazy. It's stupidly hard to try move past it and feel like it's consuming me all day, late nights and early mornings. I feel really embarrassed by it all like it's a spotlight and there's a fair people aware, made jokes about it and played him too. He fell for that but what's worse it's a friend of 10 years that did it too. Just so hard. I don't want the little man in the future to miss out but it's literally living rent free in my head at this point

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