Partner cheated

I also know if I wasn’t the person who had been cheated on I would be like you need to leave him! I never thought I’d ever give him a chance if he cheated but it has been so hard , my whole world has been turned upside down

For me once that trust is broken it’s broken. I don’t mean to sound horrible but a mistake happens once, he’s purposely met up with this person since then aside from the stag nights. Drink and drugs should never be an excuse. You deserve better. This doesn’t obviously mean anything against him as a dad but he’d be better off co-parenting with you and still having a good relationship for the sake of the children. If not you’ll be constantly worrying and doubting everything he’s saying and that’s not healthy for yourself. Sometimes it’s hard to let go but often you need to in order to go forward with your children! Think about you and them from now on x

I think it’s very easy, like you say, for people to say, leave him. But until you’ve been through it I honestly don’t think you truly have any idea what you’d do. I have been through it, my partner cheated on me, multiple times throughout a difficult period. We have worked through it, and 5 years later we have a beautiful home and little boy and we honestly couldn’t be happier, those hard times made us both stronger and make us realise what we wanted in life and that was each other ❤️ From the outside I’d again, obviously say leave him. But from lived experience only you know how you feel about it, what was really going on and if he’s worth jt ❤️

Even without the cheating, do you really want to be around someone who is doing steroids and drugs when they should be a parent to the kids you share? Personally I think it’s really selfish to go on a stag when their newborn is two weeks old. Doesn’t matter if it’s their brother’s wedding or not.

Firstly I hope you’re ok, but like everyone says it’s easier said than done I guess all you can do is try and make it work if that’s what you want! You gotta ask yourself is it worth staying! There is one thing cheating but just after you’ve had a baby when your confidence is at its lowest!

Im so sorry, I’m going through a very similar situation right now If you want to message me at all as I know what you’re going through and it’s awful. It’s easy for people to say leave but it’s not that simple at all

Being on your own with two young children is a daunting prospect. It is a very personal thing. Some people manage to move past something like this with counselling and if the partner who has cheated is willing go put the work in to earn the trust back. Others can't rebuild the trust. Only you know if you feel the relationship is worth the work and don't stay with someone just because of the kids. That never ends well. A wise friend once told me though that if you do decide to try to work on things, you must put the infidelity aside and not use it as a stick to beat him with so to speak. You have to dig down into the core of your relationship and work on any issues. I really wish you the best of luck. It will be a tough journey either way no doubt about it.