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No! Absolutely NOT you here feeling inadequate or like you're not giving enough. You just carried life, and went through trauma to your body to deliver. While experiencing the single most drastic hormone shift and drop. Add recovery from major surgery, and keeping a newborn alive and happy. My god, okay. He needs to know just how rediculously insensitive and selfish he is. YOU are allowed to feel what you're feeling rn with or without the lack of support you're getting from him. But he really needs to check himself and to show you alot more compassion. Just because he works, does NOT automatically make the responsibilities of your child on you a 100%. My husband works a very demanding job where most days he doesn't get a break to eat for 12 hours straight. He will run on coffee. Then as soon as he walks through the door, he clocks in to the house shift and supports me however i need to be supported that day. Intimacy is not a duty. You need to RECOVER!
He wants to be completely absent every day that he works? And he thinks that’s acceptable
My first was a C-section and my ex husband acted the same way… I was cleared 6 wks pp and he wanted to immediately. I gave in, I was in so much pain… we tried again at 8 weeks and again pain… I pushed through it for him… didn’t do it… you went through trauma, giving birth no matter how is considered trauma. You are allowed to feel overwhelmed, and stressed. Have a conversation with him, tell him you need help because you are still recovering from major abdominal surgery. You can’t just jump back into your old life. Y’all’s life is different now, if you are struggling to BF, switch to formula. Don’t stress yourself out over feeding. It’s perfectly okay! I didn’t BF with either of my kids. My first I didn’t produce anything. This time I couldn’t Bf because of a certain condition I have. You’ve got this mama!!
You should be able to feel comfortable. If you don’t feel comfortable breast feeding then you can always do formula. If you don’t feel comfortable with intimacy then you should be able to tell him I’m not ready yet. I also had a c section and it hurts. Even after it heals it’s still sensitive. Your body went through a lot. They’re never going to understand that. If you need any tips or advice with your baby you can message me. You’re allowed to be overwhelmed. Be gentle with yourself and have a serious conversation with him.