Would you allow your BD to be in the birthing room with you while in the hospital as a support person if he opened up to you recently and told you he has a new girlfriend and slept with her but still loves you and feels conflicted?
Show your support
If he will be supportive yes. The birth of his child is a big thing for him too. Or maybe a compromise that he comes in when you’re about to push rather than laboring with you. This will be the start of separating your romantic relationship from your parenting relationship.
I don’t think it should be a question of whether or not you should let him in the room but more a question of is he the person you want in the room with you. You’ll never forget that day and you want someone who will be able to support you and baby in the best way possible. You want to feel loved and not anxious. What about once you’ve given birth also you need looking after then. If you feel you will get all you need from him then it’s makes sense otherwise I’d opt for a close family member or friend 🫶🏾❤️
I would he’s the baby’s dad at the end of the day
Being the baby’s father has nothing to do with this decisions a lot of fathers aren’t allowed in the room unless the couple is married or the mother agrees to it, whether you do it or not make sure that he would be someone who makes you supported in that time. Me and my child father are together just currently long distance, I had him in the room and he supported me, and only rested when I did, my mom was there as well and I was so afraid for my own life and my sons life I was so close to giving up, my mom didn’t even help, she tried her best but it only made me more upset, it wasn’t up he spoke to me and I looked at him and he held my hand that gave me the strength to push through whatever I was feeling and keep pushing for us and our son
I think a good question to ask would be: is bd going to support you? Advocate for you? Encourage you? Make you feel nothing but comfortable while you’re most likely naked and in one of the most vulnerable states you’ll be in? Can you count/rely on him to be there the second it happens? Is he capable of making the best choices for you and your baby should something happen? I personally wouldn’t feel comfortable giving birth with this person as my support person.