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I would feel the same way wanting the girls to do things together! Also, I hate to break it to your family members, but healthy baby girl is only 6 weeks old - she isn’t going to remember any of these fun activities. I say you stick with your gut and don’t let anyone make you feel bad for your decisions. (Easier said than done I know). There will be many years of pumpkin patches to come. ❤️

Baby isn’t missing out on anything, she truly could not care less - she just wants to be with her mom, she doesn’t care where. Do what you want - but don’t deprive yourself of joy. Your baby in the hospital needs a happy mama, don’t deprive yourself of fun while waiting for her. Do what is best for you

If you want to go I’d go. I work to not make my twins do everything together/have the same experiences. Baby girl who is home won’t remember anyway and next year when they are bigger you’ll have cute memories of them together

Other baby needs their sibling :/ it can help them recover quicker. Don’t take a newborn out.. too dangerous. no social events for at least 2/3 months

The only thing your home baby needs is their mama. They don't need to go pumpkin picking. That's your decision and they should not be pushing you into saying otherwise.

Tell your family and friends that your twins are still little and you need to protect them until their immune systems can grow. Not sure how you’re feeling about vaccines, but until they have them, you should be carefully with where you bring them. I was so bummed about not being to just tote my son everywhere, but as soon as I realized it’s for his wellbeing, it made it a lot easier to wait it out. You’re their mom—you have to advocate for them. Keep doing what you’re doing. If you do t want to take just one without the other, that’s your choice. And next year with both will be even more fun!

I would also feel the same way and not want one baby missing out on the memories and one baby going. Your baby is 6 weeks old and doesn’t know the difference and doesn’t understand that she’s missing out on anything. It’s not like she’ll be able to run around the fields or actually pick a pumpkin - the memory would be for your family’s sake and not your child’s. I personally wouldn’t do it. But in the end it is 1000% your decision & nobody can tell you what’s right or wrong

Baby at this age couldn’t care less. The experience would be yours and if you don’t feel like doing it, don’t. I would feel exactly the same way! I wish your second babygirl the quickest and easiest recovery and hopefully she will be home with her mommy and little sister soon ❤️

Give over, she’s not missing a fun activity, she’s 6 weeks old! She’s your baby, it’s your decision! And if you would like to wait until you can do these things with both babies together, then family should respect your decision! They’re being unfair and putting you in an awkward position when they should be supporting your choices. Hope baby 2 is home and settled with you soon mama ❤️

She’s a baby, she doesn’t know she’s pumpkin picking. Do what makes you feel comfortable

6 weeks old? Preemie? No one would be taking my baby anywhere 🤣

Stick with your gut instinct and if that is that you truly don’t want anybody taking your baby anywhere, then you are mumma and you are fully entitled to say no. As first time mums, I think we feel the pressure - I can empathise there. I also understand wanting to do these things with them, as I too am the same with my 8m/o boy. However, you will be able to go pumpkin picking etc next year. For now, I would nestle away and focus on you and your baby girls, if that’s what you feel is right. Hope your little girl comes home soon 🩷