How many people discussed parenting styles with their spouse prior to conceiving?

I discussed parenting styles with my ex. It turns out he just agreed with me to keep me around because he definitely didn't parent the way we talked about

Tbh before I had kids I didn't even know what the different parenting styles were. I did tell him we would never hit our kids and it was non negotiable.

@Kylie wow so double whammy a liar and conflicting parenting stylem

@Ella did your partner support that choice

It was part of our premarital counseling

We talked about it a little but I knew what kind of parent he would be from seeing how he treated other children he interacted with. And how patient he was with our cats tbh. One of our cats when we first got her was absolutely terrified and he tried to pick her up to calm her down and she dug her claws into his arm and climbed up with her claws like she was climbing a tree. I took her and As blood was dripping down his arm he came over to me and asked about the cat “is she okay?” He has scars from it but he still loves her.

It's not his preference but he has respected and compiled with it

@EEgeekwife this is one of my biggest regrets not doing premarriage counselling and just leaping in, clueless.

@Ella well happy wife happy life and all that razzle dazzle

Awwwww but sometimes how someone treats other children differs to their own, but I'm glad you got yourself someone so kind and gentle.

I mean, a little bit maybe? I knew we’d align on the big stuff just by the kind of person he is and his core values. We’ve figured it out together as it’s become our reality though and we’re both still learning- we both make mistakes and don’t always deal with things in the way we/the other would like, but we reflect and we learn and we try and be better.

@Chloe that's great because there truly is no manual for parenting but reflection together is an invaluable tool. United parents is always the better choice.

See if that was me, I’d be like if that’s how you feel, then won’t see or hear from them either again cause I’m out. This isn’t boot camp. He’s raising a child to be a structured member of society. And that means they have emotional and mental stability which is gained through your parenting style. He sounds like he doesn’t have patience for parenting a child and like he has control issues. I have found that parents that use his form of parenting also are controlling partners. But I could also be wrong in your situation.

i laid it all down on the first date because i don’t like having my time wasted lol