Feeling inadequate compared to other LA moms

My son’s second birthday is coming up and all of my mom friends always have super elaborate, expensive parties that probably cost them thousands if not well over $10k. My family is in a sudden, extremely difficult financial spot and while we do plan to have a small party, I’m having to DIY everything and I feel embarrassed inviting my main mom friend group. While I know they won’t judge (they’re amazing women) it still bothers me and I can’t help but feel ashamed. Other “wealthy” parents, what you think about showing up to a “cheap” party? Ugh I how this even sounds typing it out but I can’t help it. I want the world for my son and this was just not the life we were supposed to have 😓

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Start by having compassion for yourself. Secondly, do not compare yourself to anyone. Otherwise, you will never be happy. Having a family and friends is far more important than an elaborate bday celebration. Your son will not remember how anything looks. Your goal should be how he will feel. Also, last year, I had a jumper for my daughter and only invited 4 people she wanted no decorations, and she had a blast. This year her guest List expanded a Lil and their was decorations but it didn't impact how she felt. Remember people can post elaborate parties, vacations and be miserable. I cut a ton of toxic couples I used to hang out with. Focus on you and your loved ones.

*Typo she only wanted those four guests!

What’s your budget ? I see a lot of minority owned business on instagram that will do a super beautiful party for you for nowhere near 10k or even 5k… you’re still amazing I’m sure it will still be perfect which ever way you decide to go

That’s the hardest party about living here. Everyone is constantly trying to out do everyone. Focus on your family and your happiness. Don’t worry about what others are thinking. I could easily afford to throw my baby a lavish party but you know what she wants? Her 4 best friends and some cupcakes at home. She wants real not what social media tells people she should want. Also he’s 2. He wants a balloon and cake and a bubble machine lol 🖤

I understand how you’re feeling we are in a similar situation. However I constantly remind myself that love and care is the best thing you can give your child. Your child won’t remember an elaborate party, they’ll remember a fun day! The celebration is for your child not the moms. For those who want to judge, you probably don’t need as friends. There are so many of us women out there who won’t :)

I know how you feel. I couldn’t even afford to have a baby shower and people are like well that’s why you need to have a baby shower and I’m just like um y’all could just gift stuff anyways 🫠people don’t understand

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