sex

hi idk what it is but me and my boyfriend barely have sex and it’s got worse since i had my baby 12 weeks ago, during pregnancy it was weekly/every week and a half and now im lucky if i get it once a month!!! he doesn’t seem at all bothered and i’ve spoke to him and he’s just like idk im just not horny but he says he jerks off daily. like why would u wank everyday when i’m literally here begging for it. whenever i try to initiate i get rejected and on the very rare occasion he initiates i end up turning him down cos it’s been so long it feels awkward to me and like a chore to him. not to mention when we do do it it’s always same position and he gets mad if i wanna try something different/explore things, it also doesn’t last long at all maybe 5 minutes at the longest. what do i do!!! i’m going crazy. it’s nothing to do with baby as she’s a very deep sleeper and also when she stays at my mums for the night he STILL isn’t interested. am i the problem? gone on the depo shot as apparently it can take your sex drive away because i honestly can’t handle it anymore i feel so unsatisfied and frustrated.

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Talk to him about a potential porn addiction, that’s what it sounds like. That’s when it starts to affect your relationship and it’s not acceptable in my opinion if he can do that but doesn’t want to be intimate with his partner

@Zoe yeah deffo what can i do about it tho, like i just know he won’t go to therapy or anything like that but idk how long i can continue to feel like this

Sit down and talk about it. Tell him how it makes you feel. And what it makes you think about him. Tell him what you think will happen with your relationship if it continues. You never know, he might be going through something, so try not to attack him for it. Just have a conversation. Let him know you can’t carry on like it without at least knowing why.

@Jess i did as we had a baby free night last night so i thought maybe that will encourage him and still nothing so i spoke to him the morning and he went mental saying ‘things will change’ and stormed out the door for work if i had £1 every time i heard that phrase. it’s like each time he says it it gets worse😶

If he seriously doesn’t get help or take it serious personally I would leave him. He will just know he can do it again and again with no consequences. It’s also bad on your mental health long term when you deserve better. Hope you can sort it

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