Deciding to withhold sex from my partner who i live with to get closer to God.

I recently brought up to my partner that I wanted to stop having sex. We've been together for a very long time and we are not married. We were engaged a couple years ago and then some things happened. When him and I got together, it wasn't long after we had sex. I'm leaving some things out because I want to get straight to the point. But I know I'll have you guys reading all day but I'll save for it another day. We have a 3 year old together and we live together. After my baby I just haven't had the urge really to have sex and he wants it all the time. We sleep in separate room because he sleeps better that way. Ho wakes up extremely early to workout at 5 and then runs a business. I asked him to about a month and half ago to give up weed. I felt like he consumed too much. He claims the he does it to cope with things and I'm the reason why he does it. So we recently smoked together to celebrate his new job. We had a great high sex and lots of it. I finally had the weekend off so we didn't it at least 6x. I did get frustrated with being woken up because he had a crazy boner. I'm flattered but I became so exhausted at some point. After all of that I was feeling guilty all over again for weed and sex. It's not like the sex stopped but I just wasn't feeling right. I told him yesterday that I wanted to take a break from sex until marriage. I know it sounds backwards. But I want to have a better relationship with God. That's my reason. Idk I just been having a feeling to get right with him. And not that I'm living a bad life. But I'm feeling so sad, uneasy for a while now. This morning he text me and said we should just coparent and have a friendship meanwhile. And he wants to not sleep with anyone but have conversations with other because we are week in that area. He feels that he isn't benefiting from the relationship if I'm keeping sex from him and I'm hurt by that because I've done so much.

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What is in it for him in your opinion?

(This post might have been better in the Christian Mamas group btw). Kudos to you for wanting to seek God, but if you truly want a relationship with God and follow God’s word, you have to be 100% willing and ready to put God first meaning before your bf. What you’re feeling is conviction, God is convicting you of sin and calling you to live for Him. It won’t be easy to be abstinent but it makes total sense and it’s a good thing. Fornication is a sin and it separates you from God + opens the door to all kinds of things in the spirit. You can’t be flip floppy about this because your bf also has feelings so I hope you are serious about seeking God. You also have to consider that your boyfriend may not be the husband God has for you. Just because you choose someone and have children with them, doesn’t mean it was God’s choice. Are you willing to love God, trust God enough to want God’s plan over your own? Something else to consider.

Given what’s taking place, God has already given you signs tbh. Have you began praying about this? And if you need help gettin closer to God or talking about this more, feel free to message me. But def pray to God, learn to heart God’s voice through the Bible and prayer. The Bible will be key for you in this. There’s also Christian pods on here with awesome ladies that can give you godly advice and encourage you and also ladies in the same shoes as you or who have been there done that and can tell you how God showed up for them. I know it’s not easy but if you truly trust God, He will show up for you. It will be tough though and I have to be honest with you o that, it will be tough. But God makes it worth your while if you allow Him. I pray God continues to lead you on this and open your spiritual eyes.

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If you feel convicted by God for having sex and smoking weed then you should repent and try your best to turn away from it. God still forgives you. If your fiancé is finding it difficult pray for him but whatever happens God has something greater for you. Proverbs 16:20-22 Whoever gives heed to instruction prospers, and blessed is the one who trusts in the LORD. The wise in heart are called discerning, and gracious words promote instruction. Prudence is a fountain of life to the prudent, but folly brings punishment to fools. Trust what God is telling you about this and resist these temptations.

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