Is this cheating? How should I handle it?
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I wouldn't classify it as cheating but it's definitely a line crossed. He had no reason to message someone he doesn't know saying nice to her selfie. It can also be a slippery slope leading to cheating. If he respects you and your relationship, he shouldn't be doing things like this.
Cheating is anything that goes against what’s been agreed upon for the couple individually. Him messaging another girl to her selfy lusting over her is inappropriate and could be a form of emotional cheating (to some). And like someone else said, is a slippery slope to only get worse. I hate when men act like they’re stupid and that their actions are innocent when they really go out of their way to do the most. He could’ve kept that to himself and instead chose to go out his way. Why? For what? To engage in a conversation? In hopes she’d acknowledge him? Be for real. This type of behavior irks a nerve in me cause it’s not even the action in itself it’s the why for me.
I consider this slight emotional cheating. The problem is he probably does this all the time. He’s probably one of those guys who’s always under girls post and bikini pics complementing them so it’s kind of gross to think about that because that is such a desperate act, especially if he doesn’t know these women and he’s taking the time to do this for all of them. It’s just pathetic. And would men do this? They’re hoping for some slim shot that the woman will flirt and reply back and gives them a chance to do something more so yes, his intentions are cheating
It’s emotional cheating in my opinion, what happens if she replied with the same energy, what happens if you didn’t find out.. I’m sorry you’re going through this, he’s broken the trust in the relationship and if he doesn’t see how hurting you like this isn’t a problem id hate to think what else he doesn’t think is a problem 💖
It’s emotionally cheating, he found the woman to be attractive and he should’ve kept that comment to his self especially if he knows you don’t accept that foolishness
He’s disrespectful, childish and insensitive. The fact he even tries to joke about it being not that bad to your detriment mentally is sad.
He was being thirsty?????😐😐😐😐 girl, run, next stop is proper cheating.
Ummmm he’s complimenting another woman that’s disgusting behavior I’ll tell you that and to try to manipulate you into thinking it’s it’s not a big deal is narcissistic behavior and childish he can’t even apologize for getting caught
I think it is. Especially if it crosses your boundaries. It's giving attention to an other women in the hopes of what exactly? Just because it is not physical (yet) doesn't mean he doesn't want it to be. It's emotional cheating, my opinion. He only messaged her because he finds her attractive and hopes to get attention from her. You don't do that if you are in a committed relationship. You should ask him why he wants attention. Ask him how he would feel if you started messaging some random guy. Make sure your boundaries are clear. If despite that, he continues I would seriously consider therapy for your couple or himself. He probably thinks (or knows) he can get away with this crappy behavior because you love him so much and do everything for him. He doesn't think there will be any consequences. I real man respects his woman.
Cheating is crossing whatever boundaries of loyalty and fidelity you set in your marriage.
Ask him how he would feel if you were doing the same to a guy's picture!
i wouldn’t consider it cheating but it is sneaky and gross. like what was the reason for messaging some random lady? wtf was he expecting from starting this inappropriate interaction? if it continued with her reciprocating then it would have turned into cheating it seems. you’re completely valid in being upset. even if it was a pic of a female friend there’s literally no reason to comment and him saying he was being “thirsty” is even worse. if you’re thirsty GO GET YOUR WOMAN like what the actual heck
I would be so mad if my husband did this. I’d probably comment on a couple of men’s photos just to teach him a lesson
It’s not cheating yet but it’s definitely emotional manipulation. Like wtf- “so you’re gonna get mad over a message” that’s emotional manipulation- he’s pushing it back on your making you feel as if you did something wrong! He will cheat with that kind of attitude he’s got going on- like he comments on a woman he thinks is thirsty?! wtf- and he thinks that’s appropriate and to make you feel bad! You need to run!!
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It’s a step in the cheating direction…
I was looking at like cheating posts the other day! Cheating can start with a message like that, hiding messages, lying about where you’re going and who you with! I’ve been through similar recently but it was the girl initiating it. I would say it’s the start 😢x
Cheating is lusting after another person, being with them physically, and everything in between. So yes. He reached out to some random girl and flirted. Now he’s trying to down play it.
It is disrespectful xx
Not cheating but I wouldn’t be okay with it either way
@Laurie I second this
This is just poor character. My ex acted like that with social media and ended up getting on tinder first opportunity on a business trip 2 years in. Probably was cheating elsewhere too. Got an abortion because I was on bc and he'd been a crap father. I stopped trying to make relationships with lousy men work and found a great man. This guy is validating random hoes and downplaying your emotions. I'd get rid of him
Thats the beginning of intent to cheat.
If he’s “thirsty” he can respectfully direct that to you no other woman.
Not cheating but it's crossing a boundary and is disrespectful to you