Do you always make your husband's plate?

I have a whole list of things I do before bed to set up for the following day. Most of the time, when I ask my husband for help, he gets an attitude. Huffing and puffing. He bought shrimp for tacos tonight. Everytime I make shrimp. I take the tails off. It makes eating and serving simple. I was nursing the baby so he made the shrimp and left the tails on. He goes outside to smoke, while I'm still feeding the baby. Baby finally goes to sleep and I make my plate. Truly annoyed about these tails. I warm up my food and I go change into comfy clothes. I take my food out the microwave he asks is that mine? I didn't realize i made a face. He made it seem like he was joking but ehh.. idk. Then he asks if I already made his plate. I told him no. I know I should have made him a plate. I feel bad that I didn't but it wouldn't of been a second thought if I didn't have to do any extra stuff. I feel like he doesn't do anything to take the load off just adds to it. Last night he cut his brothers hair in the kitchen. Hair was left on the floor. The chair from my desk in the kitchen. Sheet with hair in it on the kitchen floor. Kitchen a fucking mess. I was left to deal with all of that and then some. He doesn't even take the trash out on a consistent basis anymore.

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Your husband sounds a bit awful I might say 🤨 I’m sorry you go through this. Sometimes it’s hard to expect help as a sahm because it’s our job but it’s different when you can see your wife needs a hand as it is “ our child” not just yours. The tails would send me over the edge. 😭 My fiancé is currently working 14 hours a day so the house is 1000% my responsibility, he does nothing rn regarding baby and the house but I always make him a plate to thank him for working so hard for me to be able to be home with our son. He didn’t always work that many hours, when he used to work less, he had no problem helping with baby here and there through the day. You should give your husband the baby for a day and leave 😀 that always helps men understand it’s not easy, and guaranteed no chores will be done. My mom says I should heat everything up on a pan and make it fresh when he comes home but at 12am and that’s a no for me. He’s still more than happy microwaving his food at night.

"If you're going to leave the tails on, you'll need to make your own plate." Don't feel bad. He's an adult who can easily scoop his food. It's good that he learns this now, so he can repent and attone for his sinful ways. Based on previous bad behavior with plating, I never make my husband a plate. Yet every evening, he eats just fine. 🙂

I think yall need to just have a conversation about how you feel. Yes sure you could have made it and lots of things could have been different but he could have also just been better. I think sometimes men just need help to understand what’s going on. I would sit and talk about it explaining how you felt and why you do the things you do. Like the tails. At least he bought and made them right. That’s awesome. Just sometimes they need that extra push

I wish you and your husband could see the look of absolute disgust on my face when I read this. Do better. Seriously. The bar for men shouldn’t be in hell.

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