advice / Am i the ahole
My bd stayed the night, said he wanted to spend more time with his baby boy. Which is fine with me. The thing is, I’ve not moved on physically and let all my horny emotions out on my BD and he doesn’t complain. I’ve sucked him off like one night (two nights ago) and didn’t have any kind of sexual energy reciprocated back to me. I wanted to suck him off because i genuinely just love doing it so i wasn’t expecting anything but i did get super horny and was frustrated, used the rose then slept. Yesterday he slept here so he can spend time with the baby, and there was no like back rubs or any kind of physical touch stuff which we both don’t want to be in a relationship but I’m like if you’re going to sleep in my bed, and zero intimacy like touching + no sexual favors… why are you here? And he said for the baby but I’m also like you can always take him to yours or sleep in the couch and our couch is pretty gross so i don’t blame him. But I’m just conflicted on what to do. Am i being a dick or do i just need to like release my tension elsewhere or is there a conversation that needs to be had??
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@Pixie he 100% has every right to not want to do stuff with me but he says he prefers me to do stuff w him n vice versa so that’s why I’m like should we talk about that again or just let it be
tell him to sleep on the couch
I think it’s super unhealthy to sleep in the same bed as your ex.. it’s just causing prolonging of emotions. You may not even realize it but you being sexual with him may just be you wanting him to want you. ): if he got a gf right now how would you feel? Would you still let him sleep in the same bed? I think it’s like edging the feelings. I say tell him to kick rocks
It feels like he’s using you for sexual favours and a place to sleep. He should go back to his and visit baby during normal daytime hrs.
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Conversation that needs to be had about what exactly? Why he’s not reciprocating the same energy back? He has every right to not want to do things with you. And if you feel like you cannot handle your emotions or sexual feelings then simply tell him he can’t sleep over and if he wants to spend time with his child he will need to take the child to his place.