Marriages after baby

I’ve been feeling the same way at just over 3 months pp😕 How did things get better for you? Feeling so sad about it..

I think the issue is the unrealistic expectations partners have on how life is with a baby and they don’t always appreciate how much time, energy and our ourselves it takes to care for a baby. My wife has said a couple times that my focus isn’t her anymore and is our baby and how the baby is in the way of me caring for her like I used to. It’s a hard pill to swallow when your wife now pours her all into caring for a baby instead of what they are used to.

I’m almost 2 yrs post baby and things are still hit or miss. We don’t have date nights, mainly because we don’t have anyone to watch our toddler but I started watching tv/movies with my husband and he is enjoying the attention again. It’s a hard shift and when responsibilities fall solely on one partner- baby, household chores etc, it makes things harder or more strenuous and can be exhausting.