Sexual Advice

Wait- does he expect you to go down on him though? That’s the important thing to ask- is there a double standard. And like what you are asking should be the bare minimum… why would he not want to make out with you and make you feel sexy and desired?! You definitely deserve someone who will take care of all your needs… as a lesbian it makes me sad to see how much men truly don’t like women… like wtf?!?

@Lyss I wouldn’t say he expects it from me but does ask frequently and I do it sometimes. But that’s my same thought, why should I even agree when I don’t get the same level of attention. I just want an erotic moment with him

I suck my mans dick. He does not eat pussy. I suck it because i love him and don't mind He doesn't eat out because he has no interest and that's fine - because oh wait. I love him and he's allowed to have a different preference without me punishing him and turning sexual activities into a game of exchange. If you want sex to be transactional just hire a prostitute

Yeah incognito he has not right to ask when he denies you! Like that is ridiculous! It’s weird to me that lesbians love women’s bodies more than these straight men like it’s wild! And to be clear I have been with me who absolutely loved going down on me so I know it’s not all men but the men who don’t like going down on their women but want their dick suck is just weird- they want just a hole for their dick and don’t care enough to give the same. I’m so glad I’m a lesbian now cuz yeah. Women deserve so much more.

Would he mind atleast rubbing on the clit ?? I mean my partner & I that’s now my fiancé have talked about different things to please each other if one of us like ehhh no , idc what anyone says both parties should be pleased & have a desire to please each other even if it means talking about solutions to do it

Incognito- @Lyss I wouldn’t say he expects it from me but does ask frequently and I do it sometimes. But that’s my same thought, why should I even agree when I don’t get the same level of attention. I just want an erotic moment with him Bro maybe read what you wrote. You thought about it.

@Lyss yes ! I agree why deny her pleasure knowing getting head pleases him ??? To be frank men have holes too if that’s all he cares about is sticking it in a hole or go buy a pussy pocket.

just curious why doesn’t he like it and why won’t he even try it or learn? i could be ignorant af but ive never met a guy that didn’t like going down on women… to me that’s like a foreign concept esp if he’s getting the equivalent from you and expects it?

Can people not feel their own feelings anymore without someone slandering them for it? Why’s it so wrong for incognito to want a bit more? Anyway Incognito, it’s not wrong at all! I would feel the same way!! Have you tried maybe using a toy on yourself while having intercourse? If not i definitely recommend it. Or does he try and touch you while doing things? If he isn’t showing a lot of affection towards you sexually i think there might be something there that would need to be talked about. I personally don’t understand the lack of desire to go down on your partner, but if I had someone who wasn’t even willing to try I think that it would make me feel sad or make me want to go down on them less. Not as a “transactional” thing but just because I would feel like I’m not good enough to get the same. Idk I feel like if BOTH people aren’t satisfied then what’s the point. Some women 👀 might be okay with not feeling pleased down there but it’s not like that for everyone.

Sorry Ik that’s a lot but I just want to let you know that your feelings are totally valid!!!!

@Adrianna WELL SAID 👏🏽

Yeah I dunno these are dealbreakers for me. Not only would the man not wanting and not willing to go down, but my main love language is physical touch- the main way I receive love lol- and if he’s not giving that then for me I’ll end up exploding, honestly. Sounds like that’s one of your love languages too and he’s not delivering. Yes I know my man loves me and he tells me all the time but I need to feel wanted and desired to also confirm that, I’m just a very touchy feely person in general. He needs to compromise, somewhere. Touching and affection doesn’t come naturally to my hubby but years of talks and reminders (and I chucked him the book to read 😂) helped him be more affectionate. I do remind him every now and again when he slacks but mainly he’s caught up to my needs.