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I’ve only been seeing my baby’s dad since the start of August… I’m 6 weeks pregnant. Does any one else have a similar situation. At the start of the year I came out of a year and a half relationship ( very toxic ) but I still think about him as I really really loved him ( I lived with him for nearly all of the relationship ) and I’m worried my baby’s dad and I won’t last as we keep arguing already :( but I don’t have it in me to do anything about my pregnancy if you know what I mean… idk it doesn’t feel right but I know I can’t… please can someone help. Is this just pregnancy anxiety ?
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What makes it worse is my baby’s dad and my ex used to be best friends a few years back… they goto the same barbers and know the same people etc… so it’s hard for me :( I also think ( not certain ) I had a miscarriage with my exs baby back last year in April :( it just seems a lot :( I haven’t worked in years and I don’t feel ready I don’t know what to do :(

It’s understandable to feel anxious about the situation. It’s a new situation that’s quite big! I’ve been with my husband for 13 years and this is baby number 2 and I’ve felt SO anxious about it all. I think it’s totally normal no matter what your situation is. It’s natural to think of your ex, especially if it was recent, and it’s totally normal to think about your future. Arguments are sometimes healthy and relationships are hard, especially during pregnancy and when the baby is born, but with that comes new respect and love too. Sounds like you’ve already made your decision with regards to your baby, so try to relax about it - whatever will be will be 🤍

@Parris thankyou so much🥺 I really needed to hear this! So glad other people understand my situation and gives me positivity in this time. I’m happy for you! You sound extremely happy! It’s very difficult to fathom having a baby with the person I didn’t expect it to be :/ I’m just so nervous I don’t love him/ it won’t last and it will affect baby🥺 just going to take it as it goes and like you said, what is meant to be will be🩷🩷

That’s right - no point in worrying about it at all. If you end up with him or not, I’m sure you’ll be able to tell pretty early on and your baby won’t know any different than what they’re used to. I know a few couples who co parent great and their babies are thriving. Enjoy your pregnancy it’s truly amazing 💕

@Parris thankyou so much🥺 it’s just so so so scary! But you’ve really made me feel at ease and to stop worrying! Thankyou so much 💙🩷

You sound like you’re going to be a fab mum, you’re already putting your baby first and thinking about them over anything or anyone else. Focus on yourself and do what is best for you. You’re not responsible for other people’s feelings so don’t worry that your ex and current boyfriend run in similar circles - don’t get pulled into any drama just focus on you and how you feel (Easier said than done I know!). Me and my husband have been together for 16 years, wanting to have a family for 9 years, and have been doing ivf for 5 years, and we’re apprehensive about having this baby!! - worrying if we’re good enough / can do it. I think it’s completely natural xx

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