Mom Needing emotional support

Totally relate, 10 yr son AuDHD /Anxiety and more .And I dreading going back to the school on Thursday after Milton.

I can relate to this 100%

I can relate. My 10 year old and 7 year old both have ADHD. Everyday is a s show around here.

Have you tried the unstuck and on target program? There is a parent course and a child course. If you talk to your child psychiatrist they can help get you in contact with a medical facility that utilizes this program. Is your child getting medical intervention (mental therapy, ABA, etc.) not just public school resources? Have you tried a virtual school or homeschooling? I have also personally found that the medication‘s make things 110% worse. I have noticed significantly more success in going the nonmedicated route and making sure my child has access to a ton of non-medicated resources like ABA, unstuck & on target, speech therapy, occupational therapy, mental health services, virtual school vs traditional public school, etc.

My.child also has both. She started with therapy in 1st grade. Meds for ADHD in 2nd grade, and anti-anxiety meds this past summer. Is your daughter able to explain why she's so resistant?

@Samantha I will look into that program! She wouldn’t qualify for aba here in Md , only kids w autism do. She sometimes wants to be homeschooled but I work fulltime so that’s not an option . She was in therapy and we are restarting that. Her emotional intelligence about herself appears low.

@Brianna honestly we think it’s her father who she is with every other weekend and what he has said about meds … which I can’t stand. From what I can gather from her she doesn’t seem real aware of her challenges that we are seeing first hand everyday

@Andrea I definitely highly recommend the unstuck and on target program. They do typically a group class for the kids in person and a virtual group class with the parents. However, this may vary because of your location versus mine. The psychiatrist should know about this program and where to send the referral. Usually this program is taught through a clinic and is sometimes known as a clinic for executive functioning disorders. It does sound like biological father is playing a huge negative in her mental well-being. It is very likely what you were experiencing has no correlation to her actual diagnosis and is a whole other issue that is completely out of your hands. So give yourself a ton of grace as It is extremely hard! I would highly recommend if you haven’t heard of this group join the Facebook group called the ugly truth of divorce and coparenting ran by Samantha Boss.

@Samantha I think you may be on target and I’m so fearful of that impact on her now and how she becomes as an adult. Also there’s trauma there w him for me which when she shows similar behaviors it is so triggering which doesn’t help things , whole ‘nother story

@Andrea I honestly completely understand where you are coming from. I am in those same shoes with you. I definitely recommend those two Facebook support groups. I also highly recommend therapy just in general for yourself because it is super helpful.

@Andrea one piece of advice I can give in regards to her diagnosis is because of the situation be very careful on medications. Due to the environmental impacts you’re not going to see an accurate display of her medical diagnosis and medication impacts. Due to this it is very easy to over medicate or prescribe inaccurate medications as well as misdiagnose.

@Samantha that makes things so much harder. For you and your daughter. My husband and I were hesitant to put her on meds, to the point we talked with a psychiatrist to help us see all sides. We also asked our daughter what she thought of going on meds, so we were able to hear her thoughts. And if your daughter isn't seeing the challenges, maybe the conversation starts there? Hopefully with a therapist to help with any potential repairs from her. Also, does she have a 504 in place already? Are teachers following it?

Definitely can relate

research biomagnetism therapy and try to find a legit clinic near you. 🫶🏻

@Brianna yeah the 504 is another challenge , she has one but we moved and she’s at a new school this year, and I don’t think it’s being implemented .. I’m a special education teacher so I know the law..

@Samantha yes therapy is crucial !

I can relate, my daughter is also 10 with ADHD and pretty bad anxiety too. She complains about taking it, so I started letting her take it with chocolate milk to incentivize her. It also helped that when we let her go without medicine she herself noticed that kids “were not very nice to her and called her crazy”… so she doesn’t like how she gets treated when she doesn’t take it. She herself is completely unaware of the impact it has on how she acts. We’re in a little different situation being that we are still married and very careful about always sending the same message to the kids though. So she hasn’t resisted much other than a complaint before I tell her “you’re going to miss the bus, just take it”. So I suspect the Dad is the culprit here. Parents have to be on the same page, married or divorced in order to get the kids to follow along. It’s unfortunate he’s not, I’m sorry. Sometimes even married ones have a spouse who is not being supportive and undermining the other parent.

@Laura thank you for relating ! I think my daughter is very good at masking when she needs to, which makes keeping and her new psych np really question the adhd. But her executive functioning is a challenge. I hear you about bio dad, he is true narcissist. And yeah her bus comes at 7 am now !!

@Samantha can I message you

@Andrea yes, of course you can message me.

My son is 10 and has ADHD and anxiety and a mood disorder it's hard he has bad freak outs over silly things and it's hard to get him out of the freak out. I totally get how your feeling mama