Birthday/ Christmas

Absolutely no judgement here but, why are you guys buying separate presents if you're literally engaged? Wouldn't those presents be from both of you as you're both her parents?

@Lauren we’re not buying separate presents it’s more like i feel bad because he’ll be buying legit everything pretty much.

@Maria ahh I get you! I know it's easy for me to say but honestly try not to feel bad, you're a team right? You both contribute to your family in different ways, this particular occasion just happens to be his turn to contribute financially. I'm sure you can find a way to contribute yourself, could you buy a cheap box mix and make her cake? Wrap the presents that your partner has bought and spend time decorating your place for her birthday? You are so much more than, and have way more to give than, just money. I'm on maternity leave myself so money is tight with us too and I do feel bad about not being able to contribute financially much but then I remember we're in this together. Not everything is 50/50 100% of the time but that's okay. We both contribute to our family and our life in different ways 🫶🏻

@Lauren be decorating his parents house so isn’t the same. and ye true we are a team just hard when i’m used to doing things on my own normally.

@Maria you don't have to decorate the whole house if you're not comfortable, just a front room or bedroom or something! Either way my point is effort alone goes a long way, not everything has to be financial. Yeah I get you, it's a hard adjustment when you have to take a step back and learn to rely on someone else for something you've always done yourself. No one claims that motherhood is easy but it definitely comes with more challenges than people acknowledge!

Can you pick the presents out together? Also it’s soooo far away.

@Cindy isn’t that far away tho most people have everything bought already

I know how you feel, I normally buy our daughters Christmas/birthday presents but my husband will buy them this year. I’m due December 13th, Christmas is obviously the 25th and my daughter’s birthday is the 31st.. not including my husbands birthday on the 3rd of January🙃 I know it’s easier said than done but try not to stress, your little girl knows she is loved by you both.

I bought like 2 things for my son on his first Christmas because they don’t really know at that age. Trust me as they get older they will want more right now they want you happy and loving them. Xxx

Both my kids birthdays are close to the holidays so we don’t do gifts on the holidays. If anything, I’ll get them something that they need like clothing but We just spend time as a family playing games or whatever. And for their birthdays, we will get them gifts. I’d rather save all that money and go on a family vacation or some thing that will remember instead of getting them something that the only play for a second and then no longer use it.