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You're not overreacting. You've moved incredibly fast so this might be the first time he's showing you who he really is. Definitely listen to him and decide if this is what you want or not.
I’d be more concerned that 1 he wants to have sex with my best friend and 2 he’s still in touch with his ex-wife and open to having sex with her..and the fact he’s suggesting her shows he knows she’s down for it too. Many red flags here.
From my experience it doesn’t get any better. For me he: continued to ask, seemingly out of nowhere, I found porn/kink sites relating to this on his phone, he had tried every which way of asking/attempt/guilt/manipulate my answers into a yes. And was asked things like “would you be a cuck?” “Can I have a gf?” “Open relationship?” “Throuple?” I would attempt to have a serious conversation, without the name calling, and set this boundary now. See how he reacts in this setting. But decide how and who you want to be with. Is it going to be worth the humiliation and wrongly placed blame ?
Wow, that's such a red flag!! He's trying to put guilt and blame on you. His ex wife and your best friend? Absolutely not, this man has motives, and cannot be trusted.
I’ve definitely tried talking to him and just get the cold shoulder about it. Honestly I’ve been so uncomfortable about it that when we do have sex I now have trouble getting off.
Sounds like he’s showing you his true colours, it’ll only get worse. I’d honestly leave.
Leave, and run! Real fast! This sounds so dodgy, like Zaza mentioned, the fact that he fancies your bestfriend and mentions his ex wife is very disturbing and doesn't sound trustworthy at all. Pay very good attention to what he is saying and not saying but that would be a big red flag for me and a big reason to leave his ass.
You’re not over reacting one bit! That’s ridiculous to ask especially AFTER you said you were not interested in it. I’d lay down some boundaries and set some consequences if they’re crossed.
I think you are actually Underreacting the way I would've left the second he even hinted towards a threesome... He doesn't take you or your relationship seriously this dude only cares about getting his dick wet. Please have more respect to yourself and know that there are men out there who are capable of only loving you and not needing other women in their lives to be sexually pleased. That guy is NOT a husband material and I never see a point in dating someone you know you will not marry. Waste of time, let him go fuck whoever he wants however many he wants but without you in his life.
Next! Lol Run like what Valerie said.
Girllllll if it that were me I wouldn’t waste my breath, you want my best friend try it, you want to have sex with your ex go for it, I’m out. No need to waste my precious time with someone like that no matter how many good times we’ve had. He doesn’t respect you cause it he did that not something he’d ask.
You’re not overreacting by having opinions and emotions and setting boundaries, then getting annoyed/upset if he tries to cross those boundaries. This sounds like a him problem, and even if you weren’t having sex regularly you still have a right to say no to things you don’t want to do.