Partner not understanding

I think your partner is caught in the middle. It seems he wants his mum to have time with the baby but at the same time wants you to take it easier? I would just communicate and say that you’re not comfortable and that when you’re ready you can take the baby to go see her or she can visit but you don’t need the extra help day to day

You absolutely do not have a problem, we as mothers are designed to keep our babies close. I was getting lots of pressure off my Dad to let him have her for an afternoon and I just sat and cried when he took her it was awful. My daughter is now 15 months and for the last few months I have felt comfortable letting family take her for an afternoon. Please don’t let anyone rush you, you will know when you are ready.

Totally understand what your saying, i think whats more helpful if people want to help is them doing jobs off your to do list, ask if she liked to do that

you’re completely valid in how you’re feeling, this would bother me a lot too. my eldest is 2.5 and i still don’t feel happy to leave my children with anyone (aside from my partner! unless it’s REALLY necessary, so for example when i went to give birth to my third baby. it’s just not for me, i can’t stomach it well! 😅 let your partner know you want to have a conversation about how you’ve been feeling and voice your concerns/what you want going forward - in this case it would be the time to adjust to having baby and still living life, and not feeling like you HAVE to have your baby in someone else’s care to find this grounding ❤️ remind him that you ARE both capable to do this without needing extra hands all the time x

I completely understand this. My partner keeps asking me to take the help when it’s offered for my own sanity. But I’m like???? I don’t want or need a break from the baby??? It’s the housework I want a break from🤣 I really don’t see how someone else minding your baby while you then complete your to do list is even a break?! So I’ve come to the conclusion that this is indeed life with a baby, the house will be done when I get time. I want to spend every minute I can with my baby before Mat leave ends

Tell him that as a mum the best you can do is to spend time with your baby. That if he thinks you need help in the house, you should hire someone who come and clean around.

@Marissa exactly! I for example don’t like when someone asks me if they can feed her or change her.

Totally understandable really how you’re feeling. You don’t have a problem and don’t let anyone let you think otherwise

Nope, it’s totally valid. I know paternal grandmothers want to spend time with their grandchild but it’s down to us as mothers. It’s not something they can force or impose. Like others have suggested, maybe she can come round and help with things to do with the house and that way she can see baby, but you still have control and she’s helping with a load. Unfortunately some men don’t understand and don’t take the time to understand either.