So annoyed with ex friend

So I have this friend who has no kids and is currently pregnant. It’s likely the first year in years she’s free from any type of smoking and drinking. She has a history of poor communication or suggesting plans to later tell me how she’s did them with someone else unaware. She had the nerve to text me this. Because I finally did a her to her. I texted her days later or when I felt like. She had the nerve to text me this. When even meeting her long term friends at her wedding I was picking up they deal with this behavior of not being sure to put their finger on what’s her deal. She is a good friend but sometimes she seems closed off and just seems to respond when she cares too which I don’t feel entitled to a quick response but eventually it’s like do you care to show you give a shit that someone is reaching out to maintain a friendship. So this was very odd. Just venting. When she’s trying on the wrong shoe. Because it’s her that I pick up I’m not the only one that has to be like are cool??

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It's a taste of her own medicine and she clearly doesn't like it. Have you explained to her how you're feeling? If she's a good friend she should understand and see it from your point of view also. If she doesn't, just leave her be. We spend too much time putting effort into someone all for them to not do the same. A friendship can't be a way one street

Ugh I have a friend like this. There when they want/need you. I’m not expecting immediate responses of course, we have children and it’s hard sometimes but when it’s over 24hrs it’s abit boring. Is it man related do you know? Is she quick to respond when she is shit with her partner? Or is it like this all the time.

I know someone like this, who wishes everyone should be at her beck and call. Until it is the other way around. Then she becomes very busy. I think given your information that; she is a good friend, and if you are still willing to holdon, you could have a conversation over how the friendship can move forward and work towards it.

@R 🪬 she’s good in person more so but what else should she be on the other hand if I’m welcoming her into my home…I was going to give her a one word reply then decided it’s beneficial for her to have some insight and she really couldn’t disagree. But said she could understand one part regarding me. I was honest and told her poor communication would lose her a lot of friends and from what I gathered over time it seems or they often stay in touch the bare minimum.

@Amy it’s been that way but worst since she got married to someone who seems to always be arguing with her….it definitely seems she’s a friend when it’s convenient or like I’m a last resort friend and I shared that with her and added she should have some self reflection as to why she would think I would be that way. Like no self awareness. It’s like once I was EXACTLY how she was for two weeks she lost her shit

@Homtapwa in person I don’t see her responding much unless it seems to be gossip about my child’s father then the response is quick. I just decided to drop it because I can’t deal with the close off ness or pick and choose when to be open. She seems in denial about her life and I think that’s why she can’t return it and calls it optimistic. When really she’s been miserable with a love bomber she’s been making excuses for the past 2yrs because they both wanted a baby. It’s just all over the place.

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