IS THIS NORMAL???

My mom always talks shit when she’s alone with my bd. Today she told him I eat too much and drink too much. I have a feeling she told him worse but he didn’t tell me to avoid drama. The other day she told him that I’m a “pretty little liar” and irresponsible. He thinks I’m overreacting and that it’s normal but do ya’ll feel like it’s weird??? I feel like she does it to start shit between us because me and bd don’t always get along but have been really well lately. It really gets under my skin that she runs to a man she barely knows to talk crap about me knowing him and I argue like hell sometimes. I’m trying to make it work with him and she just keeps talking bad about me it angers me so much and hurts my feelings. I don’t even get what her objective is like it literally boils my blood I can’t trust my own mom. And she tells him things I don’t even want him to know to avoid us arguing…. so annoying. It’s like she has no friends so she rants to my bd but it almost always starts drama between him and I. I tell her this and she just doesn’t care. My mom just gives me big hater vibes or is it normal to ya’ll?

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Yea no thats odd i would distance yourself from that… Don’t ever let the family you come from destroy the family you made‼️🫶🏼

@Linaa thank you! it’s hard because i live with her… bd keeps trynna tell me I’m tripping and that’s what parents do but I feel so betrayed and unsupported by my mom

Yea that’s tough but definitely not normal a mom should be your biggest supporter not your biggest hater and anyone who thinks that’s normal obviously grew up in the same shitty situation.. you dont want your child growing up thinking that’s normal bc it is most definitely not at all‼️😥

We were homeless for about 3 months after we had to leave my moms for similar reasons, she kept saying I had dual personalities and she couldn’t talk to me because she never knew if it was me (I was misdiagnosed BPD because I’m autistic, but also BPD stems from trauma, not multiple personalities or DID) she tried talking my baby while he was crying for me and my dad got her to give him back finally. I called my husband to come home and admit a month later we left in the middle of the night, stayed in the car until a spot opened at the family shelter (mid February 2019 at -30°F). We’re still together, made it through a lot. Family should support you, never belittle you or put you down to others, not point out your flaws.

From experience no it is not normal my mom used to do that with my ex and it used to get progressively worse. year later I found out she threw her self on him when she got a chance. Your mom doesn’t want to see you happy and will get worse. I had to cut off my mom for this as she was sabotaging my love life and later even family because once my current partner seen trough her and she couldn’t put anything more out there she was going to family talking badly.

Okay definitely not normal and not okay!! Your bd should stand up for you and if she continues you should cut that negativity out of your life because it starts with bd then she’ll start talking bad to your kiddos and that simply not okay!! Hope you get it figured out I’m sorry you’re experiencing this!

It seems she has a jealousy issue with you. Seems she will do anything and everything to make you unhappy. I think you should set a boundary with her and let her know you need to distance yourself from her. I am so sorry this is happening, last thing you need is a hater in your life. ESPECIALLY your own mother.

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