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Yea my pregnancy was like that but he always told me he didn’t want kids then when we found out he kinda forced the abortion thing on me and I told him I’ll rather be a single mom then do that but after a while it just got worse even after we both decided to keep the baby I still don’t feel like it’s better now that he’s here so all I can really say is ik it hurts but your strong and you gotta be strong for that baby so if you gotta put yourself first and leave then do it cause at the end of the day that baby is all u got if he’s acting like this now towards u it’s gon have to be on him to wanna change for his child
@Genesis I feel like he doesn’t understand at all. He can’t see the progress of the pregnancy really and doesn’t believe I feel shitty unless I’m heaving into the toilet (I’m still sick this far in) and I feel like we have a huge wedge between us now. He’s currently on a boys trip and I’m just at home taking care of everything while he parties and avoids the issue. His mother tried to set us up with a counselor but he refused to go. But he claims we are okay, he loves me, he wants to be together, but I just don’t feel it. He swears I’m just hormonal but I have this gut feeling he’s upset I kept the baby and ruined his freedom. Dudes 10 years older than me and I wanna just shake some sense into him!
@Ky at the beginning of our relationship we had the “what if talk” and he said if I got pregnant he would want to keep it, he’s mid 30s and has no kids. Then as soon as I got the positive test he was suggesting an abortion over and over again. Even offering to fly me somewhere with more relaxed abortion laws if needed. But I refused. He didn’t really talk to me for a week after that and it hm just hasn’t been the same since. He claims he’s happy we kept it now but like he’s unenthusiastic? His family is stoked. He says he wants to be together and he promises to always take care of me (he makes reallly good money) but I just want things to go back to how they were before. Our relationship was amazing before. He were completely happy and like totally in love. He doted on me and treated me like a queen. Now things are just like idk not that :/ he’s not awful to me or mean. I can just feel this huge shift. It sucks. I’m rambling I’m sorry lol
No like I completely understand when I first met my bf we was super happy we were together every day all day never separated when I would leave friends would send me videos of him yelling out the window talking about I’m on the phone with my girlfriend while I watched him do it through the phone and everything and now it just seems like he only tolerates me because of the baby and idk I’m stuck girl so I genuinely know how u feel
Oh a boys trip? Tell that man child he can take a boys trip when he makes enough money to hire a maid to care for you. I’m assuming this is your first child so I’d expect him to be asking how you feeling, buying you the food you won’t throw up, I mean you should really feel taken care of. I promise you deserve better. If he won’t go to therapy with you then maybe you’re not willing to put up with his selfish behavior?
Me and my man been having issues since I got pregnant our son is gonna be 5 months old on the 26th we start couples counseling today
I felt the same exact way when I was pregnant and I still have an issue with my partners “view” of my pregnancy. I swear we almost got divorced right before, and we certainly aren’t out of the woods yet. Im not sure why but my man’s problem seems to be the lack of understanding and interest to understand what you’re going through, which can feel so shitty and lonely you feel insane! It may carry on into your motherly role as well. See what you can do to build communication on the subject