How do you be civil when they stole your baby name
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I get you being a bit niggled but essentially you don’t own the name. You don’t know if you’ll go on to have a boy and if you do, maybe you’ll have gone off it and love something else by then. If you go on to have a boy and still love it, use the name. It isn’t her name or yours to claim. Learn from it and don’t discuss names in future.
@Allie id say it’s pretty uncommon. Ranked #245 on nameberry polls for this year. But your correct there is lots of people with the same name these days
@Helen that’s true. I don’t have any right over it. And knowing me I probably won’t. But always have those names you just love. And yes lesson learnt
Yep I get that, names you just love. I didn’t want common names for my kids but at the same time didn’t want to be too out there/obscure/odd lol. I didn’t know what I was having with my oldest and only discussed serious name choices with my mum, altho oddly enough I had one choice for a girl (I had a girl) and my boy name, I wasn’t 100% sure of and it’s turned out to be a popular up and coming name, which was something I didn’t want. Someone I used to work with, who I bumped into early days of her pregnancy when I’d got my daughter has named her child the same and I always wonder was it because we bumped into each other and she met my baby lol. My second baby I knew I was having a boy and again, kept name choices to immediate family conversation. I had completely gone off my boy choice from my first pregnancy and now, my son is 2yo and I’m so happy I named him what I did. Things change, preferences change. But 100% if u have a boy and u still love the name u liked, use it
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@Helen thank you for sharing your story with me. It’s funny how some names just rise out of popularity from no where. Funny that was the same with what I had for girls always since was a young age loved the name penny or Penelope think was from Penelope pitstop and it surged in popularity so didn’t use it well also husband vetod it Think I’ll take a leaf out of your book and do it in the family. Sometimes you make the choice that’s for you and maybe it’s better for her than me
I always say this: baby name stealers are real!!!! I absolutely do not discuss names at all with anyone other than my partner. Years ago I told a friend a name I quite liked (in my top 10 but not one I'd ever use) which was quite unusual- lo and behold a year later she named her daughter that name. Personally I couldn't name my child a name if I know someone who has the same one, I just like to be the only one haha! So to answer your question: yes, you have a right to be (secretly) annoyed!
Sometimes it can be genuinely accidental. This happened to me, by a best friend and it was a super personal and unique name, and I was absolutely gutted. (It was to honour someone, and I’d planned it for years) When I eventually brought it up with her she was so surprised and apologetic, she couldn’t remember that she’d heard of the name from me, it had stuck in the back of her mind and then months later she thought she’d heard it or seen it on a list somewhere. Lesson learned, don’t share ANY absolute faves, with *anyone*. You 100% have a right to be upset though, and I hope you’ll still use the name if you still love it in future
I wouldn't share, I shared my hopes for a girl name and someone just trashed it right in front of me the next second. Definitely would keep it to yourself even with friends.
I mean just name your boy that anyways, I’ve told everyone my girl name if I ever have one and if someone else uses it then our kids will have matching names idc😂
How common or unique is the name? If it’s like a Madeline/ Noah/ Penelope/ Theo/ Sophia/ Luke type super popular name or Joshua/ Sarah/ Matthew/ Joanna/ George/ Charlotte type super classic name, then no you don’t really get to be annoyed. If it’s a pretty unique name (like my daughter is Kaia, never met one before and only heard it once) and you had said it was your top or one of your top few then yeah definitely reasonable to be annoyed (and if you ever do have a boy and it’s your favorite, name them that anyway)