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I actually think it’s quite sweet that they want to come and meet your baby and good that you have people around you that care and are excited 🤗 if you are not ready then it’s okay to just let them know that it’s too soon but you are grateful!

You don’t have to accept their visit but they might just be letting you know they want to come, if they didn’t bother you could be upset thinking they didn’t want to visit? X

@Rhea yeah I can see it from this side too. I think I would have received it better if they'd said, we would love to meet him, let us when we come for a visit. Rather than, are you free Thursday so we can come over? X

@Josie totally get this too. It just feels very presumptuous when they request a specific day.. lots of our families haven't even met him yet, let alone friends x

I think it’s rude that they’re specifying dates/days! I always say “Can’t wait to see you and meet baby, let me know when you’re up for visitors. I’m around if you need anything.” You definitely don’t assume that someone is ready/wanting visitors! Congratulations on your little one xxx

Totally on the same page with you. Luckily nobody asked us yet when they can visit after baby is born, but if someone does I'll say "when we invite you" 😆😆 I am not planning having visitors earlier than 1 month and 1st person will be my mother in law and my mum. Possibly my mum might come earlier as she travels from abroad and that's fine as she's coming to help me, not to be a guest.

It’s your time with your newborn! Put them off! You’re well within your rights to say having this time as a family, let’s meet up soon. X

@Becca exactly, this is what's annoying me the most.. I get they are excited, but don't tell me what works for you?! The way you've said it is how I would approach the situation too! Thank you xx

@Gabi it's just rude isn't it. I didn't set any boundaries with anyone, but I also didn't expect people to tell me their schedules and what works for them! I think I'm busy til Christmas now 😂

@Laura thanks, I just wanted some validation that I'm not being difficult really. It just irked me x

Be kind to your friends - sounds like they are there for you and baby. Maybe just drop them a nice honest msg and let them know how you feel. I don’t think it’s a reason to get annoyed as if they have kids, they’ll probably understand when you explain. Oh and Congratulations!! :)

I felt the same! The day of my baby’s birth and all the nanas and papas rushed to come visit after I’d had quite an overwhelming birth experience. I felt really overwhelmed by it all - and I’d maintained throughout my pregnancy I wanted a few days with no visitors so I could adjust and spend time with my wee one.

I had people trying to come visit within one day of me getting home... as in less that 24 hours. So I think 1 week before checking if they can come is quite reasonable... you can always just say "can you wait a bit longer?" I'm sure as fellow parents they would understand. They could have worded it better on their request but I don't think they mean it in a demanding way, more a checking if it would be OK manner allowing you to say no. 🤷‍♀️

I think the fact that your friends want to meet your child means they give a shit and love you. Personally I'd be offended if people didn't want to visit. Fair enough if you want to put them off for longer but getting annoyed seems pointless.