PP DEPRESSION
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Those comments & people not respecting your boundaries would absolutely infuriate me, honestly I think it’s very normal for you to be angry about those things! Are you taking it out on your partner because you expected him to stick up for you and he didn’t? You don’t have to have anyone come to visit if you’re not comfortable with it, there’s plenty of excuses -like nap times- you can use to avoid visitors. Babywearing is also a great way to avoid baby being passed around like pass the parcel, I was very lucky to have respectful friends & family that were careful not to cross any boundaries or ‘hog’ the baby, but if anyone did then they wouldn’t be visiting again, or at the very least I would babywear around them
@J’akeecia i have previous mental health problems it will all be logged, last time i got referred to psychiatrist and the man made me believe i was mental that’s why im not interested in it
@Lauryne He is sticking up for me but it’s more of we are getting home and i’m ranting about his family. He then doesn’t like it understandably because that’s he’s family but they don’t even ask my baby gets snatched off of me. My baby gets fed food she can’t have after me saying no. My baby will lay on my mother in laws chest area and she will make a comment like “she wants my milk” (she’s in her 50s and i’ve never breastfed) it’s getting to much i’m crying everynight thinking she’d be better off without me. I don’t have the confidence to say no or what are you doing or be rude. I can’t physically do it i’ve tried so many times and suddenly i’m the problem, i’m the bad person. My baby is my absolute world but i just feel like i can’t cope in this situation any longer
You’re not the only one. I already have a history with mental health and have been diagnosed for a while now, but after having my baby, I got PPD so I had to have my medication dosage upped, I was scared to say anything for the same reason but they won’t take the baby, they will get you in touch with help! They have done for me, I also have my regular MHN if needed. But being annoyed and angry that your boundaries aren’t being accepted is enough to piss anyone off, PPD or not ! People, family or not should respect your boundaries!
I have a past history with depression and have am under the postpartum mental health team. I remember saying to them about my fears of my baby being taken away because of my depression. They responded that’s the last thing they would do - the doctors were saying that it upsets them that women won’t reach out in fear of this. They said that the best thing is for mum and baby to be together. I really struggled with leaving my baby alone with anyone, I didn’t want anyone to hold him - I was overwhelmed with feelings that he would die if I wasn’t constantly watching him. I would say to the doctors that you’re overwhelmed and have been struggling. Say what you have said above. I promise you, you are not alone. Not saying you’re not special, but it won’t be anything they haven’t heard before! Becoming a mother to a new baby is not easy. if it’s easier or more comfortable, you can request to speak to a female doctor.
Feel free to reach out. I’ve had help for depression and anxiety at different stages of my life. So am happy to answer questions ♥️
The doctors usually don’t just give you medications themselves without prior history of mental health problems. They will most likely refer you to a psychiatrist. Tell them you’re not interested in talk therapy just medication. Try to ask your obgyn about it because they may know someone who specializes in postpartum depression