Should I feel upset about it

Ok for start my FIL started this aswell as my MIL but my Husband just joined in to but I gave birth to my daughter 1 an half weeks ago an since I came home (we live with his parents) from the hospital my in laws keep telling me that I should let my daughter cry it's good for her an her lungs all because when she was born she didn't cry at all but when she was hungry but now my husband has joined in an telling me to let her cry all because I was trying to mop an hold her at the same time but Everytime they say that it makes me feel as if they are telling me I can't hold her or do anything with her......an I think it's because I have 2 (Step) Kids that are 2 an 1 but I love them all equally an I try my hardest to treat them equally but as a newborn an breastfeeding / pumping she needs a lil more TLC I just don't know how I should feel about it anymore I wanna cry but same time I wanna yell at them for making me feel this way

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letting them cry it out isn't good for them. They cry because they need you, it's their way of communicating. When you let babies cry it out their brain starts to disassociate and they start to mentally shut down as their needs aren't being met. You're the mama i would follow your instincts and keep being there for your baby. You did all the work to grow her and birth her, your brain and body know how to care for her you just need to listen to yourself 🩷

@Kami Trujillo that's exactly what I am thinking but if I said anything like that it'd be "pity pity them" instead of hey maybe she's right or it's whatever she feels is right with her kids cause the 2 older ones when they start to cry it's oh let's baby them

@Sinead x firstly didn't come on here to be told I'm moving to fast in my relationship an secondly didn't come on here to be judged just wanted some opinions on my situation an Thirdly my life my choice my third child was an accidental pregnancy if you must know an the first 2 pregnancy wasn't with me obviously

Don't let them tell you what to do with your baby. Letting your baby cry it out is emotional abuse. I would be very firm at telling them they took their own decisions when they were parents and that you gonna take yours as a parent and they must respect that. Speak up for yourself because they probably gonna overstep if not. Their generation never took emotional health of their kids as important and we can see the results now. Let's change that for our own kids and care for their emotional health as much as physical. Best of luck

also whenever my baby cries, he's 4 months and is still happens, i get overwhelmed/anxiety. I just want to soothe him and my brain starts panicking if i can't. It seems like my baby's dad doesn't get this same reaction i do. Part of our brain lights up when baby cries so that we respond to them and care for them. So letting your baby cry it out at this age is not good for you or them. If anything they should be mopping/cooking/cleaning while you're with your baby! The more i think about this situation it's annoys me that they're telling you this.😐

@Kami Trujillo that's me all the way around plus I have a 2 year old telling me sissy is crying an a German Shepherd/ Husky mix barking at me when she is crying an it makes my anxiety 10x worse an then my 1 year old gets overwhelmed an starts crying

Take your baby as many times as you want Mmmm.

And need. My milk supply stopped because I followed stupid advices. It's a crucial moment. Hold your child

Honestly, I’d be real with them and tell them you’re completely confused by their suggestion You’ve gotta feed your baby and that’s what you’re going to do Further, cuddling helps with brain development - proven by studies So you’re going to do what’s best for your baby You can add that you no longer need to hear that suggestion (to let your baby cry it out) but you appreciate their concern Good luck!

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