When i went back to work last month, no one apart from me or my husband had looked after our little boy for any length of time! My mum takes him 1x day a week and she had only ever sat with him for an hour or so here and there- i was very anxious about it. For me - her sending me regular txts/pics and updates throughout the day on how he is getting on helped. He also goes to a nursery 3x days which was harder again, i still found letting go hard but it does get easier as each day passes ❤️
You would need to do settle in days to get your LO used to it. Drop them off and then do the shopping or head out for lunch / coffee.
Tricky one to navigate when it’s family… My only advise is to have hard boundaries on the things that are important to you, and don’t let them slip over time otherwise resentment and ill feeling will build up…! I struggled with this with my first born, I’m much more assertive with my second born. The constant opinions and advice drove me insane
Has she been having the baby regularly/spending time with the baby? How is her relationship with her grandchild? Its hard at the start but it gets easier, depending on your relationship