Is he right?

Is my partner in the right to stop buying Christmas/birthday/mothers day gifts for BM (obviously from the children) when she doesn’t reciprocate? He has spent the best part of around 2 or 3 years now buying her presents for their children to give her (and it’s always something expensive she’s had the cheek to ask for too) and she just doesn’t do the same for him anymore. He’s always had the stance that it’s ’for the kids’ but now he’s said enough is enough as he never receives anything on his birthday/father’s day etc.

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I don’t think it is wrong to stop but I think more about how the child feels. If the child likes giving their mother gifts then I would let them pick out something small or a card. If the child doesn’t mention buying a gift for their mom then I wouldn’t bother. I wouldn’t stop doing it just because I didn’t get something in return.

@Christina no it’s never the children who ask to buy gifts it’ll be her who likes to ‘remind’ him that a certain occasion is coming up and let’s him know what she’d like as a gift. At most she will tell the children to also remind him that she wants xyz

He could help the children make a card / gift...thay way he isn't giving in to her spilt behaviour but the kids still get to do something

We have done the same We didn’t get so much as a thank you from her never mind anything reciprocated for my partner Not our problem and sd never ever asks!

Does she have a partner? If so can they not take over in that department? It’s such a tricky situation but BM has a boyfriend now so thankfully has backed off from expecting my fiancé to do it and her fella does it instead 🤣 Either way if she isn’t bothering to do it then feck it, nor should he!

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