Mom guilt and anxiety
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Oof. Well I only have a 4 year old (and 1 on the way) and I sometimes feel like this! But it's often just a phase then it calms again. I'm sure the new baby will bring its own overwhelming challenges again. Have you tried meditation? It might help you feel a bit more calm and able to handle things? Kids can be bags of chaos sometimes, and even if you're handling things well, the mental pressure of that can get too much sometimes. Most parents have been there, try not to be too hard on yourself x
Can you get part time help around so you can concentrate on you for a bit?
Have you been diagnosed with anxiety? Anxiety absolutely does make you impatient and over stimulated. Have you tried meds or therapy? I have anxiety and I'm so much more patient in my parenting when my anxiety is under control. Tbh.....I just don't take my kids out much. Park is fine, but I go shopping alone. Shopping with kids is usually a nightmare.
It’s totally normal to feel that way sometimes. I have days, and even weeks, where they just really try me. A month or so ago, my husband was working over a whole 3-day weekend (it was Labor Day weekend actually and I was alone with my two kids all weekend). And i literally called my mom on Tuesday and asked if I could bring them to her house and just work out of my old room (I work from home) because I felt like I couldn’t do it for another day by myself. I was diagnosed with anxiety in my teens and have been on meds but I’m not currently. Unsure if that has anything to do with it. 🤷🏼♀️
My underlying feeling of tensions is present at all times. My friends say I am a great mom and make it look easy. I think that goes to show you never know how someone is feeling underneath. I don’t know when the last I felt truly relaxed
Outings are also riddled with anxiety for me, and I often get home feeling completely drained. Little man is 21.5 months. When I feel it starting, I’ve really tried to focus on asking myself “I’d this worth spiraling?” And I’ve gotten better at being ok if he fusses a bit in public (which is what I’m most anxious about). I remind myself I cannot control everything in the situation, that most people also have kids or have been around kids and understand if he gets loud. Anything I can do for self-preservation and hopefully stave off the ‘spinning’ as I call it… once that starts it’s hard [for me] to snap out of it. Positive thought to you!! ::Hugs::
@Vanessa I feel you, big hugs! Hope we’ll find inner calm at some point.
@Laura you went the whole 3 day weekend!!! That’s an accomplishment for sure!! I find myself calling my mother for breaks a lot, and guilt myself. She says she loves it, but I worry at some point I’ll have asked too many times… sigh
You are not alone.. I feel like you described me.. except with 3 boys (10, 7, 11mon) it's exhausting & depressing at times.. idk how many times I've told my husband I just *can't mom correctly today. Hang in there, momma! Big hugs!