To me it feels like a complicated situation. Make a pros and cons list; Remember why you broke up in the first place. He knew how you felt about this girl, and still slept with her. It wasnât during the relationship so you canât necessarily call him wrong for it, but it is still allowed to hurt your family. He defended this woman even though she tried to do the same thing to you. Homewrecker. BUT As you say, he seems to know he messed up and claims it wasnât serious. Do your instincts tell you to believe him? Personally, as hard as it is, allowing disrespect back into your life means you canât complain if something happens again. But the situation is complicated, and children do always deserve their parents together. Whatever your first thought is (get back with him or not) go with that. If you get upset at the idea of getting back with him even though you still love him, donât do it. You know what choice you want to make based off whichever one makes you feel worse.
I agreed with the comment up there until she said all children deserve their parents together which isnât true they deserve two healthy parents and if you go back into this relationship you need to both work on trust, boundaries and respect especially on his end. But there will be times where that situation will still hurt you during your relationship. You need to ask yourself are you willing to risk that?
@Cheey My bad thatâs what I meant by together! As in âwith their shit togetherâ đ thatâs that new mum brain fog getting to me
@Faith they are both equally as bad. I do love him and want to try to work things out but on the other hand I donât want to carry this with me for the rest of our relationship. He still works with her so sheâs not exactly going anywhere. I do believe him but I donât like the fact they see each other everyday.
In my experience got back with my kids father after no communication for 6 months and he was talking to a women it didnât bother me because we talked about her and he told me a story about their past years before me but then Found out he was talking to her making her think he was only hanging with me because the kids. Then me and her started talking and she was showing me screenshots and he was deleting stuff off his phone so I couldnât see but he didnât lie about their past before me. With them working together do you think you wonât think anything wonât happen at work you might have negative thoughts about them and thatâs not good for you and the relationship the stress and the thinking whatâs happening or might happen might cause stress and fights in the relationship. With my kids father we were on and off for years I kept trying for the kids but it wasnât meant to be and didnt want kids to be around unhappy and unhealthy environment and 2 years later heâs MIA with them
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Youâve already been disrespected, and youâre allowing it back into your life by taking them back