FTM needing some support

The social worker is there to help and support you. If you are having a difficult time with anxiety they may recommend a therapist and psychiatrist to help you with the transition. Is your partner able to help relieve some stress and help out with the baby?

I do have a psychiatrist already but can’t get in till the end of the month. Due to them wanting to confirm if it was baby blues or not

@Ronni my partner currently is doing the best he can while supporting me

Hey I remember these days so well. I would cry over literally anything - good, bad, funny, the lot. Me and my partner told the HV, (i even cried in front of her) and she knew of my mental health past. She didn't call me crazy, didn't send in the men with strait jackets in. She actually sat there chatting to me about my feelings, made a little joke and told me how she was the same with her 3 every time and how natural it is. I had a friend who did the same and her HV referred her to mental health who gave her some therapy then quickly signed her off. She said it was amazing and was glad for it My point is, it's natural. Don't worry as you will stress yourself and make it worse. Talk to your nurse/ health visitor. Also, drop me a message if you want. I'm not the quickest replier at the moment but I will 💗

Very normal. It’s not even been a week for you since having your baby. Hormones are everywhere. No one will judge you at all. Ask your HV for help. I did after both mines. Take each day as it comes and it does get better. No one will call social on you for asking for help. Baby blues is common the first week but still seek support. Ask your partner to split shifts with you so you can get some sleep. Then he can sleep when you take over. ❤️

This is so normal!! Please be open and honest with your HV, they are there to help! In the first few weeks of postpartum (I’m 7 weeks now), I was crying 5x a day over everything and anything. It will be okay! And even if this lingers longer than 2-3 weeks and it goes beyond the “baby blues”, know that that is okay too and also super common. Please open up and be honest, because that’s the only way people can be there to help and support you. You’ve got this!

Hi! I went through the same feelings but I did go ahead and let my doctors know. They were very helpful and gave me tons of resources. They consistently checked in and really helped me get the help I needed. This is all completely normal and part of the process. A lot of moms go through this so most of the time they're ready and prepared. Please reach out for help. Don't be afraid!

Honestly so so normal, after a couple of weeks the hormones calm down and it gets easier. Nobody tells you about this, my HB was like your past day 3 which apparently is notoriously the worse and it gets better from there

I know exactly what you are going through, I was the same (baby born on Monday too!) I felt like everyone was judging me and I struggled to sleep with the anxiety. Do you have a partner at all to help you? I broke down yesterday and spoke to mine and my sister. The best advice was that this is hormones and things will be tough for the first few weeks but try to sleep in shifts and do what feels right for you. I ended up swapping from breastfeeding to pump and bottles of expressed milk so I know he is getting what he needs as I was getting so nervous that my boy wasn't eating enough/ blaming myself. I read every advice post I could and googled so much which I can tell you now, does not help as it made me more paranoid. The HV is there to help but I felt awkward opening up to them on the next day visit because they just say "ofcourse you are worried and tired..." I have to admit after just one night of shift sleeping I feel a world better. If you need anyone in the same situation, just message me xx