should i forgive her? *long post🥲*

I think my biggest downfall is giving people too many chances but yeah this is a hard one because a lot of the time, it's easy to lose trust in people and hard to regain it. To me, she seems genuine and really knows how she messed up a good thing. Maybe give her a second chance but let the time together and her actions help you regain that trust back, things don't need to go back to normal at all or at a quick pace. Sorry that you went through that, I was in a very slightly similar situation so I know it's a shitty feeling.

If you do forgive her I’d absolutely bluntly call out how selfish & hypocritical she was. If you’re fearing for your friends safety you don’t abandon them because it’s hard to watch. Especially if you genuinely believe your friend deserves better.

I can understand it from both sides, I've cut people off before because I can't and won't sit around and watch them stay in unhealthy situations, there's only so much you can do, especially when you try to help and in the end they go back to whatever it was. On the other hand, I can understand how you must've felt abandoned by a close friend at a vulnerable place in life and that can obviously cut deep. I would personally give the friendship another go. I don't really see it as a second chance as although again, I'm sure it hurt you, I don't think she did anything wrong.

I had a similiar situation with my best friend. I gave her another chance. She's owning up to what she did, and that's hard to do. People make mistakes. I will say that our friendship isn't exactly how it was before, but it's different and that's OK too

I’d forgive her but not be friends with her again. Friends should support each other through everything.

People make mistake, nobody is perfect. Its easy to judge but if it was truly youre best friend give her a chance and if she mess up just leave

as someone who was on the other end, forgive her. she meant well

@Selina I’m honestly leaning more towards this.. I’ve already forgiven her, but I would neverrrr leave my friend during a situation like that. I definitely understand stepping back and not offering advice (which I never wanted to lay my burdens on her in the first place), but to completely cut your best friend off over a situation THEY’RE going through… idk

Thank you all for the advice!!🫶🏻 I’m going to take them all into consideration definitely

if you have to ask..i think you know the answer. now as a mom i don’t give chances out anymore to protect my peace and mental healthy. if you forgive her it’s really up to you! but id really think about if its worth it