Cheating husband

Do you have family you can move in with?

@Danielle well the house we live in is in my name. I don’t have family around here.

ugh you don’t deserve this, I’m so sorry. I don’t know if this is the best advice, and I know it’s easier said then done but I would contact a trusted family member, let them know the situation, change the locks on the house, see if someone can come and help you pack up your things, put the house up for sale, and live with a family member until I figure out my next steps. that way you will have money from the house coming in once it sells.

Girl kick him out. If you choose to reconcile on your terms that’s fine but he needs to understand the severity of what he’s done to his family

I don't know where you live, but most states will say that it's both your houses. So I don't know about that advice on kicking him out. I think I would find an excuse to go visit family for a while and let them help you make a plan. Being legally married gives you a bit more protections on the house front. (I'm far from an expert and it's 2am up with a kid) If you want to explore rebuilding the relationship, consult a therapist to consider the estimate of needed work. Like would you need to require a move? Or a new job for him? Depending on so many factors. But also the reality of divorce and likely needing to relocate and rebuild alone. Having ppa, you'll very likely need supportive family or friends close. Is that even possible anywhere? A therapist can help you talk through that.

I'm so sorry you are facing this! I'm a SAHM too. Jesus loves you

Based on ur shares thus far,& my take that he needs to show up for his obligations; he could stay at the house to care for child(ren) & not communicate at all with whom he's been intimate with. His phone can stay on the table or ur nightstand face up at all times,& u have the password. He doesnt get to run off while he's been living in ur home, & made his choices to marry u, AND have a baby. No, he needs to stay ever present until u decide; he needs see what he's done to his family, AND care for his child(ren). In the moments u can stomach it, u need to ask/assess what his plans are going forward, since he's paid the mortgage/expenses; that's the precedent that was set. If he leaves he's setting new & additional precedents without your knowledge. I'd work out where he can sleep, until u find more comfort w/next steps. I'd not want to make any major decisions in such an emotional & worried state of mind. He needs to be there to parent if u can't give 100% bc of his bs...even if it's just 5min u need. Be 💪🏽