@KayLee this is so reassuring and makes so much sense. Thank you. I think you’re right. Plus once we went to bed later he was cuddling again. We definitely both wanted it to be mind altering sex because we waited sooo long and there’s parts of me that feel like I under delivered too because I was more sensitive ect But I definitely am not offended or bothered by him finishing like that because it lasted hours and I couldn’t take much more and I know he was dying to finish and it just wasn’t happening. Maybe the next time will be better with less pressure and not being high ect
I’m glad to help! I’ve definitely experienced things like this before so I totally understand your perspective. It’s always helpful to take away the feelings of insecurity for a second and think about it from their perspective, you did nothing wrong girl! Good luck with next time😉
Id say just over thinking it a lil. My husband is the same way after having drinks it takes forever!!!! If he is completely sober I have to slow it down a bit if I want it to last a good while. He's not a "minute man" lol but maybe a 10 minute man haha. I say don't read into it to much or maybe wait until the next roundevue' and have no drinks or anything and see how he does. I know after having 3 babies with one pregnancy being a twin pregnancy I've often wondered was i not as tight as before is why he would take longer to finish but turns out that isn't the case with me and my husband
You are probably overthinking. It’s pretty common to have difficulty finishing with high expectations. Being high/tipsy etc AND not having done it in months probably left him in a place of “this has to be life altering sex,” as I’m sure you might have been thinking too. It’s also much easier for people to finish themselves off during times like this and he probably just got bummed/post but clarity after finishing that it wasn’t up to the expectations that he may have had. I would reassure him that everything was great from your perspective even if the ending wasn’t quite what you’d both hoped. Reaffirm that you’re glad to have the clear and can’t wait to keep experimenting with getting back into the swing of things. You’re obviously free to let him know that you wish he’d been a bit more affectionate afterwards because you deserve that! But don’t overthink it, sounds like he got into his head just like you’re in yours.