If it’s a guy bestie it makes sense to me that you’re paying for your own stuff - it’s not a “date”. A date, w a potential romantic, I’d expect him to pay for my meal coz he invited me to that date. Not a bestie chilling out on the regular. Guy or girl. If he can’t respect the fact that you have no romantic feelings and keeps pushing it then I’d have to stop the friendship. If he can still treat you like he did before, I’d give him a chance to stay my friend coz I don’t wanna lose a good friend like that. So you haven’t told him I’m assuming?
I’d absolutely tell him what it is about him you don’t like. For my best guy friend I mentioned the two things a didn’t like but I said it like “I prefer a guy who..” and we definitely were not in a conversation about him liking me we were just talking about our “types”. Anyway he paid attention and fixed both those things and 4 years later I fell madly inlove with him. He’d liked me all along. Now we have two kids together and he’s the best I’ve ever had 🤭
It sounds like you already have a boyfriend anyway. But anyway you just tell him you don't like him like that.
If he is ur bestie doesn’t he already kno ur in a relationship? Just tell him ur only interested in being with ur current partner 🤷♀️
@Victoria I mentioned Not the kind of bestie you keep in your back pocket. Because some times women have best friend males as a second runner. I never said I do that. thank you. I think I get where you are coming from
I mean, it’s fine for him not to be someone’s type, but I definitely wouldn’t laugh at him. I would just explain that’s how how I saw him & he can respect it or take a break from the friendship. The “friend zone” isn’t real, because no one is obligated to go out/have sex with anyone just because they’re friends!