No Sex Drive Whatsoever

Hi, mamas. My son is nearly 17 months old and I still have no sex drive whatsoever. My husband has a high sex drive and wants it every night, so I try to give it to him at least two or three times a week. However, he knows I am never in the mood, and it makes him so sad because he feels like I am doing him a favor. It is making him really depressed. What do I do? I feel like I should just shut up and pretend to be in the mood so he feels wanted. I am still so attracted to him and in love with him, but ever since I got pregnant and had our son, I literally am never in the mood. I have tried to think of why my drive is so low, and what I came up with is this: - I extremely fatigued all the time, as my son still wakes up at least 10 times a night. - I am still breastfeeding, so I have no period and my hormones are likely low. - I have ulcerative colitis, so I am usually in a lot of pain. - I have severe body dysmorphia and always feel disgusting, even though my weight is low. How do I help my husband not be so sad about my low sex drive? Because at this point he doesn’t want me to force myself, but I have to in order to keep him from getting depressed!
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Have you had your bloods done, you could be lacking iron vit d or folic acid That was the case with me, so tired and felt depressed and since iv been on vitamins it’s improved me mentally so much Worth a try x

@Krisie I finally got my blood drawn this morning, so hopefully it will show something!

I’ve felt the exact same since having my daughter in 2023. Just know you’re not alone and so many women go through the same Hopefully your bloods show something and you can get any help needed if something is up I’ve been out on vit D tablets because I’m really low in vitamin d because I’m also breastfeeding and it causes me to constantly be exhausted and in pain which is one of the reasons I never want to either xx

honestly i still feel that way, i have a 4 year old and a 7 month old. it does get better eventually, but for me my sex drive never quite went back to normal.

I have zero interest too. My thyroid is thrown off from weaning and I’m honestly not emotionally connected anymore. I don’t find my husband attractive either but his mood swings are a huge turn off. I used to fake it all the time and since having our child I don’t have the energy to fake it anymore. It’s common to lose libido after birth

@Chai I actually have a history of really low vitamin D- maybe it’s low!

@Christina🤱🏼🍂☕️♈️ oooh emotional swings would mess me up too!

@laurel ugh I’m glad I’m not alone on this. Honestly I think a lot of my sex drive before having a baby was closely tied to wanting to get pregnant and have a baby, and since right now I’m not even having a cycle, it feels so off the table

He’s miserable. lol I literally can’t stand to hear him breathe either 🤣

Could be, especially if you’re breastfeeding! I hope it’s sorted for you soon☺️xx

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