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There isn't really a point to this post but I just want to off load somewhere. So if you read thank you 😊 11months postpartum and whilst I love being a Mum and I love my girl so much. There are times where I just don't know what to do with her, she's in a really awkward stage where she is so bored of her current toys (reluctant to buy new with birthday and Christmas coming up) but we try to make it work but she just looses interest so I let do a bit of independent play but then she looks sad and bored so I feel bad. We go out daily for walks and talk about what we see, we practice walking as she can take some independent steps. I just feel a bit mentally exhausted because she doesn't sleep great (improves slightly every few weeks) I can't drive so I feel bad that I can't go further a field with her and where we live we are extremely limited. Then I also feel sad that the expectations of mat leave hasn't really been met and I wished to have made more Mum friends but God the Mums at our baby group are so clicky! Why is this?! Surely we are all in the same boat I return to work at the end of November so the emotions of that as well. It just feels alot and today I just feel a bit mentally overloaded-is this normal? Anyway thanks to anyone who has read ❤️

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Oh bless you ❤️❤️ sending a huge hug, it’s an absolute ride isn’t it! Sometimes going back to work and a bit of structure is amazing for the mind, is she going to childcare? Lots of new toys there to play with 😉☺️

So so so normal! I love this age but god is it difficult. I find getting baby involved in the chores entertains him so much more than toys. He loves to load and unload the washing machine, loves to take all the socks out of the sock draw then put them back in while I put away washing 😂 the latest is to drag a trainer round the house like a dog by the lace hahaha. My point being they don’t need fancy toys or extravagant activities.. they’re amazed and amused by the really simple things at home. As long as baby is safe in what he’s doing I let him explore whatever he wants around the house and it entertains him for ages, he’s learning and I’m not going mad trying to entertain constantly. Hope this helps and always up for a chat if you just need a rant! x

I feel the same regarding the mum friends you’ve mentioned! I thought by going to baby groups & soft plays I’d meet mums and friends for my little girl but that hasn’t been the case at all. I’ve seen lots of posts that have said similar so you’re not alone! Some women just do not want to talk they just want to stick with their already formed friendships. If only us non clicky mums lived near each other 😭 x

I feel the same and even worse. Currently I'm home looking after my lo. No plans soon to going back to work. But... I am stuck. Struggling with MS. Every day is battle for me. And trying to do my best for lo and my partner. Feeling like I am half person after relapse and failing to get everything to 100% No mums around me and cannot be every day in groups (just sitting on benches in the park) Really sorry 😞

I could of literally written this myself🤍 I’m in the same boat as you little ones not interested in his current toys we go out daily and motherhood has been so lonely for me loosing friends not socialising it’s been a lot-hope it’s gets better for us both ❤️

Oh I feel you a lot, we don't drive either and I feel so guilty we just go to the same places every day... I don't have many mum friends (non in my area) and we don't go to many groups either. I also have a terrible sleeper, even cosleeoing her longest ever stretch is 3 hours....usually 1/2 hours. I feel you a lot. This shits hard and expectations or the life and childhood I wanted to give her aren't being met, but we're doing our best and that's all we can do. They will always know we love them

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