I’m trying to work out things with my BD but my friend keeps telling me to leave him

I mean you’re in the right to set boundaries but it sounds like she’s just frustrated you’re going back to someone who isn’t good for you.

I get what your saying but you have bigger worries then that especially if this guy has you pregnant but you have to roommate with her . If I were your friend I’d be disappointed. Only because you and baby deserve better but maybe you can talk to him when you’re not around her and stop telling certain people when you and him Are going through it so they won’t have such harsh feeling if you guys rekindle.

At the end of the day, if she’s really your friend she should support your decision. It doesn’t sound like she has been a good friend to you if she’s gossiping to her other friends about your information. I’ve been a victim of that before and I’m much better off without them. I also have learned not to tell my friends my issues in my relationship because I don’t need outside opinions to solve inside issues. Of course our friends are going to have our back but if you’re going to support me in regards to what you think is best for me, be what’s best for me too. If she cannot respect that, she shouldn’t be your friend just as much as she thinks he shouldn’t be your man. If you’ve decided to forgive him and try again she needs to respect that space as you guys have now created life together and need to at least be on one accord when it comes to that.

Besides, even if it doesn’t work out with you and BD, is your friend going to be the one to pick up his slack? If not, realistically she should butt out. I personally do not want someone around who is going to bad mouth my child’s father. (The only context we have is that he’s said some hurtful things; and let’s be honest, we’ve all done that. ) if he’s apologized and you’re willing to work through it, do it. Create a circle that is willing to support you on this journey for YOUR decisions, and not decisions THEY want to make for you.

Quite often if you keep going back to people who hurt you that damages relationships with friends. People on the outside have a different perspective and also are the ones comforting you when things go wrong. She can’t stop you from going back, but yea if you’re breaking up and he’s nasty to you it’s understandable why the friend is trying to get you to be firmer with him. Just make sure he’s doing things to build a solid relationship with you and not just that you’re willing to put up with more to not raise the baby without him

I agree with @Kiana Some will always think they know what’s best for you, but at the end of the day, they don’t - you know what’s best for you. If you want to work it out with your BD, then you should and your friend should support your decision regardless.

I've had to learn the hard way to keep personal business between me and the one I'm struggling with. (Still learning) but everyone now is disappointed in and doesn't like my baby's father. There's been some bad stuff between us and everyone I care about outside of him I've vented to because I trust their judgement and their perspectives but it has now bitten me in the ass because now everyone dislikes him and I've broken up with and gotten back together with him almost every day since having our daughter 6 months ago. It's hard to navigate when the people we love and love us aren't accepting of our choices. So my only advice is here on out dont tell her anything but good in regards to him unless it's abuse always consult others when it gets to that level. Otherwise clam up around her about him. It's the only way to keep both relationships peaceful

That girl is not your friend, and its your life your relationship you tell who when and what you want And if you want someone to talk to for real judgment free hmu because I've been and still am in your shoes