Mum guilt!

Does anyone else live every single day with mum guilt? Not feeling like they’re doing enough, struggling to find the energy to do something with their little one? And just feeling like you’re not giving your child what they deserve? I’m so stressed with feeling like this everyday, I struggle with depression and anxiety (no one would even know as I hide it well) and have done for years. But some weeks I can do loads and other weeks I can just feel completely meh and not want to do anything but then feel guilty about it? I WFH but normally when babe is napping. No matter how much people say “you’re an amazing mum” do you ever feel like you actually are. I find parenting and being a pro active parent really difficult 😢… anyone else?

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I feel guilty for not changing up toys/play and doing enough art and crafts activities with my lo. I feel guilty I’ve introduced the swimming pool but now it’s term time they don’t family swim during the week. I feel guilty for not taking her to soft play frequently or other groups and not being able to make mum friends so she has kids for play dates

I feel a lot of mum guilt, a lot of it is because I'm the stay at home parent while my partner works but he still does a lot. Partly because he's a wonderful dad and partly because my daughter absolutely loves him and is quite clingy to him and I constantly have to drag her away from his office. It helps me a lot to track my cycle- I am usually tired and cranky and demotivated just before and during my period, but when I'm ovulating I feel amazing and can get loads done. It also helps me to just check my perspective. Parenting is hard. You have to keep a small person alive, you're constantly having your boundaries pushed, and honestly it is really boring. You are an amazing mum, you're just human too. ❤️

Yes. I second what Isla says about cycles. It feels that way with me too, half the month I'm good and half the month I am low and demotivated. It sucks. Get all the vitamin d, b6 and magnesium you can and just keep slogging on. Your baby loves ya no matter what remember that :) Personally I feel guilty for not having structure in our days. My Mum says make a daily planner with activities and i don't i just wing it. I'll bring out the play sand set or painting stuff when i feel like he's bored, but mostly we just go on walks to the parks, feeding ducks etc. Or library or play group occasionally... i am planning aquarium for his bday in Nov and it'll be his first underground train trip. Trying to open him up to more experiences but i think travel puts me off. It's not easy being a parent is it? It's just about pushing yourself when you don't want to but doing it for them, and it is really hard on the bad days. But not every day has to be the same x

Thanks ladies. I have two other children also, who are hard work as they’re the same gender and close in age. It’s so hard to fit it all in and try and be a good mum, I give her attention but I’m so exhausted 24/7 I’m really struggling :(

My main activity for my lg is taking her out with me and letting her walk (holding my hand) it’s her favourite she loves getting out and about and if we don’t that’s when I get most of her “naughty” behaviour but it’s just where she’s bored and hasn’t had enough exercise

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