He introduced them to her..

This is a rant. Sorry for the long message.. My husband and I, from what he would reassure me and from what I knew, were doing well and so happy.. For 2 months (and some change) I started to get a feeling like something was up. But never found proof. I thought I was crazy. About two months ago, he leaves me from one minute to the very next and said he had fallen for another woman from work. His employee.. I was about 10 mo PP and the girl has no kids and from what I’ve heard a bad reputation with getting with married men. (He told Me) now he says they were all roumers and that he was getting tired of me with my PPD and my attitude and that I was sucking him dry & how he wasn’t happy and all this stuff that he would never tell me during the relationship.. He was so proud of us.. His career, his new car.. BTW he left his job after she got fired because their business came out.. It’s all so random. He would always make me feel so secure in our relationship. We BOTH agreed if it wasn’t with each other it just wouldn’t be because we never wanted step parents for our kids. This came as a surprise to even our family and friends. Everyone swore we’d be together for ever.. Including me. We have two small kids. His thing was he never wanted to tell me how he felt because he knew I’d work on things for the family & he just didn’t want the relationship anymore?? A few weeks ago he took it upon himself to go behind my back and introduce the kids to her. She had these stuffed dolls for them as a gift.. Later that evening my son was having some weird spooks.. So I told him he needs to come see the kids at my house for a few more months. Like how does he even know if he really likes her?? Is she even a good person to be introducing our kids so soon? He truly broke me y’all & I feel like I just can’t get over him and I know I NEED TO. I deserve more and I know it but I never had a chance to stop loving him.. He has become the distant dad that he always said he would never be and I don’t know what to do.. I’m suffering not just my own heart break but 3 heart breaks for me and my two kids. How do I get over this?? WHAT DO I DO?? I’m not an aggressive person I don’t like arguing or conflict and I don’t bother people. But shit.. this hurts.. I want to be on the other side of this and already healed. I didn’t see this shit coming and 2 months later I still feel like it’s a nightmare that I need to wake up from. He was my best friend and the absolute love of my life.. Where did this turn?? Cheated on me for 2 MONTHS while voluntarily lying to me about how safe I was and how much he loved me.. Till 2 hours before he broke up with me *through text message* (like he owed me nothing ) he told me he loved me.. why?? For what??!
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Ugh I’m feeling for you! I would be irritated if my exs introduced my kids to someone so soon too! My fiancé moved out a few weeks ago and then denied the baby I’m pregnant with by him! He said he was just mad a week later and told me he wanted to work on things but this was such a shitty thing for him to say to me and basically accuse me of cheating I’m having trouble forgiving him fully. It is better having him in his own space though. So idk what’s gonna happen. I’m sorry you’re going through this! It’s so hard since you’re still in love with him like you are. I’m here for you if you wanna message me! We gotta be strong for our kids so that’s what I will continue to do and I’m just focused on being the best mother I can be to them and getting through my pregnancy being way less stressed out now!

I’m sorry you’re also going through such a shit time! You’re awesome! I’m cheering for you!

What a dick!!!! Men’s actions can be so tacky and heartless. You know what you should do! Don’t say a word to this man not a word. You handle those kids on your own. You don’t k ow who he is or who that hoe he’s with. Throw them dolls out from that bitch because we don’t take gifts from side bitches. You grieve in Silent! You don’t post online nothing you pick yourself up and create a routine. Act like a bitch to him he’s a liar everything threw the courts. You don’t want him back not a man that will leave you 10m pp you deserve a man that will be by your side. Forgive yourself and move on and never look back! You might not see it yet but your new life with your new man will be so much happier and supportive. Keep your head up♥️

Leaving you because of ppd instead of trying to help you is crazy! Imagine your life years from now and how much happier you’ll be once you grieve your old life. No one deserves what he put you though, you’ll get through this!

@Lia those dolls were definitely trashed! Thank you, girl! I absolutely agree! Deleted all social media. It’s just this crazy anxiety I start to get. I don’t know how to help myself. It starts to make me hyperventilate and I start to find my attention being taken off my kids and wrapped up in my own mind. I feel like shit, honestly and don’t know how to cope.. I don’t bother no one. When he introduced I went and found her address, moms name DOB and her full government name just so I know how to protect my babies God FORBID he is dumb enough to take it there.. But shit.. Why me? Like if I was no one to him.. But you’re so right! Good thing is time heal and time is going to fly whether I’m ready for it or not..

@Sally Thank you so much. I can’t wait to be T that point and look back at this situation. I know there’s a light. It’s just feels so far from reach right now, you know?

Girl I understand I looked up everyone too 😂😂😂 full lioness mode and I’m proud of you! about that hyper ventilation I feel is normal because you’re jaded broken hearted and wasn’t ready to leave the relationship. Them babies will keep you busy let them will snap you right out of it when it’s time to make a bottle and put them to sleep. I’m always on my daughters time she was t all my attention and I give it to her lol. I’m taking a break from the outside world and really searching within and so far so good. Cut him off until you can handle seeing him on social media. Don’t torcher yourself us women have a yucky way of doing that another thing I feel is normal but don’t do it for too long. Try searching for a therapist so you can work out your emotions. I feel they come in handy more then people know.

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