PostPartum

Just keep in contact with your doctor about this. But also give yourself time and patience. It’s okay that you feel disconnected right now, you just gave birth. That’s freaken traumatic! And now you have a baby to care for. It’s a lot and it’s totally okay to feel overwhelmed by the pressure of it all xoxo

I just feel alone. I feel I will never get better

I had this too

You just have to remind yourself that what you’re going through is temporary. It’s not forever . Do you have a partner? Talk to them about how you’re feeling. If not reach out to friends or us on peanut. Remember if you get overwhelmed with you baby to place them down in the crib or bassinet and walk away. Take breaks. You’re allowed.

Are you seeing someone about this being the way you are feeling? I mean other than your OB? And other than being prescribed Zoloft? Perinatal psychiatry? Or clinical psychology? There’s support out there - and it’s a time when many people need much support. Do you have someone that you can contact personally if you feel things are deteriorating in the way you are feeling?

You’re not alone with this feeling and it most likely will pass! We are always told that we will have this firework like love feeling, but not everyone is like this, and that’s ok. I only really felt connected to my first after she got mobile and started to actively reach for me. Love doesn’t have to be the truck hitting you. It can very well be something that slowly grows every day. And as others already said, be sure to be open about your feelings to people you trust, and of course your doctors.

@Rosa only OB but I have a great support system

@Tabitha how did you overcome it?? I feel i’m stuck.

I felt the exact same way with my first, the newborn stage DRAGGED on and to be honest, I don't remember much from before she started sleeping though the night. It SUCKS. I feel like I lost touch with so many people, including myself and my husband. I just had my second almost two weeks ago and things are definitely better than they were with my first but I know we got a long road ahead. You really gotta fight with your thoughts here. It's gunna be rough but like my favorite quote says, "Sometimes, life is like this dark tunnel. You can't always see the light at the end of the tunnel. But if you just keep moving... you will come to a better place" You got this OP, everything has a season

I had this, it does go away as it gets easier which it does however I didn’t reach out to anyone and had no help. And only at 3 months did I feel better. Because I forced myself to go out eat better and remember I need looking after too. Found out what worked didn’t give up I recognised myself and my love only grew. It can happen in time with determination naturally however if it’s doesn’t seek help and if it does seek help still use those tools that are made available to you