Advice on leaving

hi mama. please be safe when planning to leave. Are u working ? If u have any income make sure ur putting some aside that he does not know about. Also if ur able to , reach out to some friends/family you really trust and let them know what ur planning to do and see if they can help. When I was leaving my situation I only told 2 friends who didn’t know my bd so I knew I could trust them. You can reach out to the dv hotline they helped me SO much when I needed resources after leaving. Document everything and if u need to talk to someone who’s been through it feel free to message me. U got this 🩷

@Nani thank you so much! Yes I work, I’ve already been thinking I need to put money aside. My main worry is when I move back to family I’d have to leave my job and have less income but I’m starting to feel like I just need to take the leap! Thank you for your advice x

Take the leap, do it and don’t look back. Trust me it was the best thing I’ve ever done. Hurt like absolute hell (and still does sometimes) and was insanely hard but 1 year on and I’m in such a better place mentally! Xx

I left when I was about 9 weeks pregnant. I felt like some type of motherly instincts kicked in for me and I was just like I can’t have my future child see the way I’m being treated and think it’s okay. That’s all I kept thinking about. I was very afraid to be a single mom but i wanted better for myself and my child and I knew I wouldn’t be at 100% cause my ex always sucked the life out of me. I had my son late this July. I put my pride aside and have been leaning on support of family and using all the resources I can find. I take one day at a time and am so happy with my decision because now I can provide my son peace from the moment he wakes up and when he goes to sleep. Co-parenting is still something I’m afraid of because of how my ex is but I rather co parent than be in a unhealthy relationship Don’t let any outside factors or what seems normal in society to keep you in a relationship you feel you should not be in. I’m here if you ever need to vent 💕

The fact you are even thinking about it shows you care about yourself and children!

@Imani thank you so much - it’s definitely taken time but through my own healing I know I’m not doing well by myself staying in this situation. I know all the change will create a lot of hurt and I’m worried how it’ll affect my first born but i guess it’s better to do it sooner rather than later!

I would definitely take the leap, I wish I did whilst I was pregnant but I just kept trying to make it work and things only got worse after I gave birth.( bd wanted all my attention and was jelous I was putting out baby first) I left when she was 20days old and things got worser now I am living 2 hours away from home but it was the best thing I ever did for my babygirl. When you leave just make sure that you are going somewhere safe and that he doesn’t know where that is. You can always give me a text if you need any advice or someone to talk/vent to 🫶

I agree with all of the advice above!!! but speaking from experience, do not tell friends and family if you’re not planning to leave and stay gone.. if there’s even a little bit of doubt about going back, I would wait (if it’s safe of course!!!!) to leave when you’re fully financially/mentally ready to!!! And when you do decide to leave, only tell people you trust 100% the reasons you left. I left when I was pregnant and told my close friends and family.. Most of my siblings and my best friend cut me off for going back to him!!! I pray everything works out for you girl! And don’t be afraid to take that leap🫶🏻